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Jellyjelly has a date what to wear?

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jellyjelly · 24/07/2006 17:32

Ok, new to all this dating, not sure where we are going yet as he is deciding as i dont know the pubs well but he said somewhere with a garden or good aircon as it will be 33c on the day or so.

Dont have alot of clothes but have black trousers/3/4 length jeans and smarter tops but someone gave me advice which was gratefully received not to be too smart or it might scare him off.

Getting so nervous now its almost untrue.

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LiliLaTigresse · 25/07/2006 21:45

I'm sure you'll look lovely jelly, have a great time, he obviously thinks you're nice already!!!

bluejelly · 25/07/2006 22:40

Sounds like a great outfit JJ. Sure you will look lovely. Now enjoy! (And tell us what happened afterwards...)

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jellyjelly · 26/07/2006 10:55

I feel so nervous today, big butterflies in my tum.

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SSSandy · 26/07/2006 10:56

When is the date? Is it today?

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jellyjelly · 26/07/2006 11:11

Tonight at 730. Still not deceided what to actually wear but everything is washed so i can go through and just see what i feel like wearing.

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SSSandy · 26/07/2006 11:30

In those distant days when I had dates (sigh), I always got changed about 10 times and left the house, then came back and got changed again. Lucky lucky girl. Have a great time of it.

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jellyjelly · 26/07/2006 11:42

I was never that bad, i am excited but so nervous i am wondering if he will be feeling the same and how easy he is going to be to spot when we get to the place.

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SSSandy · 26/07/2006 11:43

is this a blind date then?

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jellyjelly · 26/07/2006 11:53

No, we met at a club last week and had a not very sneeky kiss then meeting tonight but it is a first date and the first one since i left my x who belittled my confidence so will see if it comes back tonight.

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nikkie · 26/07/2006 19:45

Guess you have already gone, hope you have a great night and update us soon!

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jellyjelly · 26/07/2006 23:58

Wehad the best kiss i have ever had but tonight he said that he was in love with someone from work who was engaged and getting married. Gutted i did wonder if it was to do with my son so i asked and one of the reasons why it wouldnt work and to top it all my mum was pissed off that i was late back. Confusing thing was he asked if i wanted to do somethingat the weekend. Got mixed signals ie no touching all night, i think i knew and then he said it.

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 08:05

He wants to meet for lunch on saturday as friends and we did have a laugh but this other girl is the winner.

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me23 · 27/07/2006 09:09

Oh Jellyjelly sorry it didnt work out how you wanted. Well atleast you found out now rather than later (i know cliche thing to say but it makes sense!) you'll have plenty more oportunitys with men.
are you going to meet him for lunch? could you be friends with him? or do you think you might start liking him more?

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 09:16

I looked at him and i just thought yummy and i want another kiss. Thought he was sexier in the day. I could be friends with him and that would be good but more would , well be a bonus. He did say when i met him and he said he wanted to see how things went. I did wonder if i said something on the date that changed his mind or if this other girl really is on his mind.

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bluejelly · 27/07/2006 10:04

Oh balls how annoying.
Still good experience to have under your belt, no?
I would play it v cool with this guy and see what happens. But sounds like you shouldn't get your hopes up.
Hope you're feeling okay about it all.

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 10:14

Yeah feel ok at the moment. I know x done me a favour. It was nice to have another friend as a bit short of those at the moment.

It was lovely to have a date and i am glad i didnt look better as he was casual. When i see him will go real casual and he might be smart. Who knows will have to wait and see.

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bluejelly · 27/07/2006 11:57

Sounds like a wise approach. Have fun on Sat if you go x

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 12:08

Will go, have nothing tolose but could gain a friend.

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SSSandy · 27/07/2006 14:05

He may well have nice friends!

I do hate it when men think they have to tell you about ex girlfriends and other women generally on dates. Couldn't you two just have had a bit of fun together and seen where it went? Still as blu said, maybe best to know early on. Well, at least you have a nice new outfit

I'm surprised your mum was angry that you got back late. I'd have thought she'd have been happy to see you having a bit of a life.

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 14:26

She is happy but i didnt know just how early had to get up for work. I can see her point. We are going out on saturday for a few hours and he said i could bring ds along but i wont be as ds is asking everyone why daddy was naughty and does he still love me.

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bluejelly · 27/07/2006 15:20

Oh your poor ds, how old is he?

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 15:33

3.5 yrs. He is taking it very hard and feels unloved by x.

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bluejelly · 27/07/2006 15:37

Oh poor thing. Well I guess it's early days if you only split up 7 weeks ago. I split up with my ex when my dd was 4 (2 years ago).
My advice ( I know you didn't ask for it and I hope this won't come accross as patronising) would be to keep reassuring him that both of you love him and that will never change...
I must have said it to my dd about 100 times and she probably got v bored of hearing it but she seems to have adapted to the split pretty well...

Anyway I think it's great that you went on a date so soon after the break up. There was an article a while back in the guardian about a woman who spent 10 years mourning her divorce and not dating or anything, and I just thought 'god what a waste of ten years'.
Of course you need time to get over things, but ten years!!

bluejelly · 27/07/2006 15:38

sorry that turned a bit rant-ish

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jellyjelly · 27/07/2006 15:40

Made me laugh, i dont see the point in waiting, the real mr right really could be right around the corner and i dont want to miss him. I think they are welcome to each other and i really mean it, she will have to put up with the lies and bull and thats fine rather her than me.

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