Ex only having dcs for 1day in December -or is he?

[17leftfeet]

He picked them up last night at 5 and oldest has just told me he has dropped them at his mums and gone out

Why do they do this?

Sorry, why does HE do this -I know there are lots of good dads out there

Because he's an arse and means he can say to his mates that he has his kids blah blah when in reality he doesn't. Does his mum see them regularly anyway?

My lodgers brother does this and its now worse because he moved back home with his mum and so he doesn't even bother getting out of bed!

Try and see it from the point that he is still having them when its his turn but has to go out so is getting a babysitter rather than not turning up at all. My ex used to just not bother to turn up at weekends when he wanted to go out etc. Thats far worse at least they get to see their nanny this way.

He was supposed to have them Friday-Monday but 'had to work'

Since found out he actually went out on an all day session on Saturday

They see their grandparents every fortnight -much more than they see their dad

He seems to think that as I'm not working at the moment, contact has become flexi time

The agreement we have is alternate weekends Friday after school to Monday school drop off but his parents generally do the Monday and Friday

School holidays it changes to full days on his Fridays and Mondays and 3 weeks by mutual agreement so he usually has them feb half term and 2 weeks in the 6 weeks

Although his 'weeks' are usually not the full week, his weekends are often disrupted, he's not had them the last 2 weekends

Dd1 is getting really fed up with him

Then he is just an arse. My ex never used to turn up but start arguments with me beforehand so he had an excuse but used to say I stopped him?!?!?!

He no longer sees DS which is sad for DS but my life is easier in some ways although I would kill for a child free weekend

How old are the kids? I think people can be such selfish pricks where their children are concerned and they are the RP

13&10

13 year old saying she won't go again

10yo is still at the stage of worshiping the ground he walks on and loves spending time with her grandparents

I for the life of me can't understand why you wouldn't want to see your kids/ spend time with them...I have given up trying..

In a few years when he is sad and alone he will regret it...

I too have one of these arses for a father to my kids, so sympathies here from me. Not sure why they do it but more fool them :-( my ex has mine every other weekend and gets whoever he can to babysit. I did take it back to court and get an order in place for them to be returned if he was to get a babysitter. My ex also has an order to have my dcs 50 % of the holidays but he never bothers. I think he just likes having it written on paper to make him look important.