How do I help my children deal with Separation and now OH has a new girlfriend?

[trumphy]

Basically, I found out my OH was seeing someone for way longer than the time we've been separated which pisses me off, but hey ho, we are now getting divorced. What upsets me is how it's affecting the kids. It breaks my heart. They haven't even got used to us being separated, how on earth will they feel when they find out he's seeing someone else?

Just yesterday my little one was crying and asking why we can't get back together. It makes me so cross. I was faithful to him and I still wouldnt consider dating anyone until my divorce is finalised and then probably not for a good while. The kids need time to adjust.

He says he's not going to introduce her to the kids for a long while, but to be honest, he is such a liar about everything that I find that hard to believe.

Anyone else had to deal with this? How did you help your kids cope?

Yes Chocberry, that is really horrible that he's moving another woman into your family home and so soon. These men seem to be blinded by their obsessions. But when the bloom of romance wears off and the daily grind of life kicks in, it won't last, because these relationships have no substance and these men haven't worked on themselves at all. They've just moved from one woman to another. Idiots.

I spoke with my ex the other day that's when he told me about the new Gf moving in. I asked him why so soon and he said I'm no good on my own, you know what I'm like. Unbelievable. I'm secretly hoping she dumps him! You're right he hasn't dealt with our break up properly, just getting into another relationship so he doesn't have to deal with the hurt. He's never been single or lived on his own. He moved in with me from his parents.
I could never jump into a relationship with a man who was so soon out of a long term relationship. Big red flag imo.

Oh my goodness, sounds so much like my oh! He has been in a relationship with some girl or woman since he was 17. Barely a few weeks break inbetween.

He doesn't want too much commitment, but nor does he want to be on his own. As long as the woman doesn't expect anything of him, pays for herself, is funny and entertainng all the time he's sold! I say it again....idiots!

Oooo just read your post about an Sti whilst pregnant, how horrible! Well I have some worrying symptoms now and since the last time we were 'intimate' was about three weeks ago I'm very co,ncerned. Believe it or not, I have only had sex with my husband, so I know I have not picked up anything from anyone else. But I swear, if he has defiled my body with some affliction from another slapper, by Odens beard I will deck him one! Ha ha, very dramatic isn't it!? But seriously, I will have it out with him! Plus a little word in this other womans ear!