Feeling a bit lost...does anyone have any advise?

[Chloebw]

I have a 4 month old. I was in a stable relationship for 4 years and never had any reason to think it would break down but sadly 6 days after she was born he lost all interest and left.

I have support from my family which is great. I throw myself in baby groups etc so I'm with other mums etc a lot.

I felt really awful about myself so when I get my mum or dad to watch her for an hour or so I try to do a quick work out!

I guess what I'm saying is that I just don't know how not to feel lonely everywhere you go there's things about couples and their babies even when you read the books! I know there are lots of single mummy's out there but I just feel very alone? Does anyone have any tips?

The other thing is that I know he's got a new partner (I don't quite know how long this has gone on for to be honest!). And I just don't know how I would go about meeting Mr Right. I'm not a drinker and most the people I socialise with are other mums? Am I worrying about nothing?!

I feel for you, hun. My husband of 9 years left us when DD was 3 months old so I know how bewildering it is to suddenly be thrown a curveball like that.

You say you have support from your family. That's great. Mum-and-baby groups are also good for the social aspect, though I agree it's a bit galling to be surrounded by what seem like "smug marrieds". Do you have any friends without children that you could pop round and see whilst baby is being looked after, just to give you a bit of "grown-up" time? Sometimes a chinwag over a cuppa about anything non-baby related is just the refresher you need.

Don't have any real expert advice, I'm afraid, but feel free to rant as I've been there too. x

Thanks, yeah I have one good friend without dcs but I think she's feeling a bit rocky just now as all her good friends including myself have all had babies and she's a bit lost with all of it.

I think I just feel it now because I never expected to be in the position for one moment while i was pregnant and now that spechal new born feelings worn off a bit and reality has kicked in I do feel it more.

not much advice but just try to muck on while your heart heals. i know it hurts im in the same position (split in pregnancy, now lone mum with baby, ex with new woman suspect its been going on longer).

he was with her when i was giving birth n hes just nasty to me now... i feel lost (and lonely, admittedly) too.

I think it's worse at this time of year too! The other thing I find is when you out and about with dc people don't think your single so wouldn't chat to you the same as someone might on your own!