how do you keep motivated?

[Maoamstripes]

One of those days, I have achieved a lot on paper but feel like Im going through the motions. I of course look after ds, but sometime just feel i cant be bothered! I feel so tired all of the time. Im not doing anything for "me" at the moment, I just cant get motivated.. feel like i am living in isolation! any tips? I sometimes feel i am losing touch with the "real" world and stuck in a single parent world :-(

sorry u are feeling low. can u get any free time to just take a lovely walk somewhere or a pampering treat or something? I think its manic in run up to Christmas so don't be too hard on yourself. I feel like I'm meeting myself coming back at moment and just hope it calms down in January

think the problem is i feel alone, i do a lot by myself and when im in company i feel quite detached and frustrated! What do you mean you feel like your meeting yourself coming back?
Im all done for xmas, but feel empty... Like i said im going through the motions for ds but dont feel i have any other truly meaningful relationships.. you know when you just want someone there for you?

How old is your DS? I know I neglect my social life out of tiredness.

Do you have family?

Just based on what you've said here, I'd think that you need to first (a) boost your energy levels by a bit of self pampering - some long luxurious baths, relaxing evening in front of the TV

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... And when you feel a little more energetic, push yourself to socialise a little more, just a little more than what you do now. Do you have any particular interests or any particular social situation that energises rather than drains you?

ds is 6. Im divorced now (last yr) however recently ended relationship, so going through all of those emotions..I do have a social life of sorts.. I do have family although they are not there emotionally, dont get any offer of help.. i did try to say to my mum i was struggling, she said "well you LOOK fine and you are coping".. then no mention of it again!
you are right Yika, self pampering needed... stupidly i am comfort eating, think with the cold weather! night out tomorrow but cant be bothered.. no interest :-( only other interest is gym, but i feel too tired to go! I actually feel better already just posting! thanks

Above all, don't give yourself a hard time for feeling this way! Maybe you just need to hibernate a bit till the worst of the winter is past!

yeah that is what i feel like doing, not sure it is so good for my mental health tho? I feel cut off from the world! Sometimes when i go to work, i feel like i am living at a completely different pace to everyone else, i sometimes cant even keep up with conversations! is this normal? just a result of living alone? (apart from ds of course) or is it me?

I meant its just so full on with Christmas and work etc. I've only been on my own for 6 weeks so still in delicate initial stages with DDS too.

can you get to an exercise class? I always hate the idea of going but feel so much better when I've been and energised. good way to meet people too. is there another class you'd like to join? trips to cinema with friends?

its bloody hard work being a mum. I think we forget ourselves and are too hard on ourselves too. be kind to yourself. hope things start to feel better soon

Hi M85
6 weeks.. how are you finding it?
Yes i can go to class, really need to force myself to go... Im starting to put on weight due to comfort eating :-( just feel no joy in life. exH has new girlfriend, i feel stuck. Im feeling sorry for myself and cant seem to get out of the negative thinking... a little bit of happiness would be lovely..