*Rant*

[SomePeopleNeedHelp]

You fucking useless twat. It will now be three weeks before you see ds, if you can even manage that. Apparently you are gutted but not enough to actually pull your finger out and sort something out.

And yet again you have screwed up my week.

yanno we reap what we sow with our kids. What we do when they are little we reap the benefits when they are teenagers and learning their own minds. They make their own minds up in the end.

I feel your frustration though, with bells on. :(

Has he just cancelled a visit this weekend? .

Kids aren't daft, in the long term they know who gave a damn and who didn't bother.

Yes you are right, I know.

But what I hate is that I am functioning at survival level, the house is a mess, I am really behind on work I need to do, plus christmas presents to build and wrap, nativity costme to make etc etc. I have spent the night in A&E with ds this week, I NEED that time to catch up. And I know now I am going to be snappy with ds because I now don't have that time I had planned out. And I will have to grit my teeth into nicely explaining to ds that daddy can't see him this week AGAIN. So my ex is making me a crapper parent.

Yes he has cancelled. At least he has given me some notice rather than his ususal, half an hour before he is due to pick him up.

Hugs, SomePeople.

I'm operating in survival mode too. But you aren't a crap parent. You are an amazing one because like Meglet says, your DS knows you care and that is all that matters.

On a practical level, could you wangle a playdate for your DS for a bit so you can at least get the Christmas secret stuff done? I find people can be really kind that way if you are open and explain the situation to them.

Sorry you are having a tough time. I hope it gets better. But I know exactly how you feel. My STBEX won't take my 3 DC out without me because "he can't manage it." Diddums. I do a lot of screaming and ranting in the car when on the way to work (once DC at school/childminder, I hasten to add!). It's important to get the anger out somehow, I feel).

Poor little lad. At least he knows you are his secure, solid base. Hope you get through the weekend ok.

I feel your pain. My ex no longer sees my DS but still sends cards so he gets excited and asks when he is going to se daddy again and I yet again have to explain that 'daddy doesn't want to be a daddy anymore'

DS interferes with his social life and holidays and new wife!!

Thanks everyone, have gone from rage last night to pity party tonight.

I am so bloody lonely, how am I ever going to have time to have any kind of life. Then ds is going to leave home and I'll have nothing.