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Not looking forward to Christmas

16 replies

mummytasha11 · 10/12/2013 17:01

First year as a lone parent and first in my adult live alone - really not looking forward to it! Anyone else feeling like this? Or has previously and ended up having a nice Christmas?

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 10/12/2013 17:36

Yes last Christmas was my first one! Just me and my 2 DC. We all had the best Christmas of our lives. Noone was more surprised than me! Make a nice dinner, go for a walk and enjoy :-)

cls77 · 18/12/2013 16:59

Mine too last year, must admit not looking forward to this one worse as Dd and STBEXH are not in contact this year at all. You'll realise in January how much nicer it was though, for different reasons, it will be ok.

Chloebw · 18/12/2013 18:52

My ex wasn't around long enough to ever have a christmas with dd! I'm not looking forward to it either (in fact just off the phone to my mum in tears!) but I have seen a few people on here say it's not so bad....onwards and upwards!

Dangermouse27 · 19/12/2013 23:01

Im feeling anxious about Xmas too....im going to be alone with my two children and im dreading present time as I lost my job so things are very tight.... I don't even have a tree yet.
One year I put my son to bed and drank my sorrows away. I don't want to repeat that this year.

1983mummy · 20/12/2013 08:08

It's my first Christmas on my own and my first as an adult alone as I met my ex as a teenager. My dd and I are going to stay at my parents on Christmas Eve night. I don't have an amazingly close relationship with them, but at least it's company and food...and they love my dd. she's off to her dads at 3pm and I'll then do visits and go home to be literally alone when that's finished. On Boxing Day people have taken pity on me so I'm out for lunch and dinner. I'm then hoping to collect her after dinner.

However I look back at last year and my relationship with my ex was awful and I was depressed, so this is better, but in a different way

NewBeginningsSnoopy · 20/12/2013 19:29

Danger mouse get in contact with charities in your area such as ... Well I don't know which ones there are but children's and womens charities. I'm getting toys and food hampers from 2 of them last year!

NewBeginningsSnoopy · 20/12/2013 19:30

I'm not in Great Britain so I don't know which ones you have :-)

starlight1234 · 20/12/2013 22:56

I have done Christmas alone for past 5 years..I embrace it... We do what we want, do things our way, have our own traditions...

It is much more relaxed and do what we want.. we never have turkey as we don't like it and it is too much...We have gingerbread house for breakfast every year...

Big hugs

Unlikelyamazonian · 21/12/2013 00:23

I've had xmas alone for a few years now and love it. Well, maybe not completely alone for the grub bit as we do 'waifs and strays' xmas.

Ds and I wake up at home. Ds rushes in with his stocking. We go downstairs, i make coffee. Ds and I sit under the tree and open his pressies, I have a glass of wine and we go ooo, wooo and woooow.

I make roast potatoes and take them to waifs and strays xmas.

We stay for dinner bit then come home, light the fire.

I really want to do the waifs and strays xmas at my house.

mmmmtoffee · 21/12/2013 00:40

Im dreading it aswell.

I had to flee DV 2 weeks ago and in a refuge. we had to leave all Xmas presents and couldnt afford to replace.

Unlikelyamazonian · 21/12/2013 01:41

Oh mmmmtoffee what can we help you with? Well done for getting out. They will look after you in the refuge. Don't worry about the material things you have left behind - they can be replaced.

But physical safety, emotional and mental calm and security? You have won those back and they are lifetime gifts.

NewBeginningsSnoopy · 26/12/2013 20:31

How did your Christmas go OP? I hope well. And the rest of you?

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mummytasha11 · 29/12/2013 12:08

Sorry for the late reply...my Christmas was good i stayed at my parents with ds and we had a lovely morning then I went to a friends in the evening for drinks which I haven't been able to do before so it's not all bad.
Now to tackle the New Year's Eve..

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 29/12/2013 16:26

Haha yes! What are you doing?

Strongmum72 · 29/12/2013 19:10

I had no kids this year so was totally alone but it was good as my new partner no kids either so we spent it together, one Xmas I spent completely on my own though as the kids spent it with their dad I was very tearful as my family are not local either, though I could of gone there but I wasn't invited sad times !

mmmmtoffee · 30/12/2013 09:35

my Christmas was excellent. there was no arguments, we did everyrhing juat to suit us. DD'S had fun and.were able to play with their toys as loud as they wanted.

we bonded as a familybof 3 and looking forwars to the future.

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