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LP's not allowed partners.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 10:52

So according to LO's dad and his 'mates' us woman have to be single and stay single when we have our LO's.

He has a OW whom I've only met when we were at court and personally don't give a rats' about her,

I do feel for dad's whom don't get to see there kids when they've done nothing wrong but this isn't the case for me.
One of his friends is upset because his ex and her DD took a christmas photo, where the partner was taking it (He could see his reflection in the window) Because of this he's taken the day off work and it's all there fault because she's happy with another man and not him. Another man said he's fine because his EXP doesn't have a man but if she did he couldn't see his DC as that would be "to much" he told him to keep him in his "black book of people that has messed with him" because the EXP is only with him to screw with him Hmm Xmas Hmm

LO's Dad said that he was "feeling their pain on this one" because it was SO unfair that when we get a partner we don't make them go to court or contact centres to see our DC's and we only have partners for "there own selfish needs and don't take in to consideration our child's needs just there own"

It never fails to amazes me with the shit that comes out of their mouth how all these men think it's fine for them to have DP but us mums have to sit here single forever because they don't think it's right. Hmm Well fuck you, you dick.

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SPsWantsCliffInHerStocking · 05/12/2013 11:02

Its bullshit. My ex has a gf but tries controlling my life and pisses around when he hears I may have a new partner.

He can go swivel Grin

lostdad · 05/12/2013 11:04

It works both way round.

I have lost count of the number of kids who are prevented from seeing their dad when Mum' finds out he has got a new girlfriend. I've known men to be told You're not seeing the kids until you dump her' and even court orders that say the new girlfriend isn't allowed to meet the kids.

Generalisations don't help. Men and women are equally able to be unreasonable idiots.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 11:10

He can go swivel all day. Never fails to make me laugh the first time i ever saw his partner was at our first court hearing she turned up with bright pink highlights, pink t-shirt and pink kitten heels screaming her head off that the courts where bias to woman? and I was wasting time. Knowing I'd already offered contact haha

He even tried to tell the judge that I had a partner his words are "Her personal life has nothing to do with you sir, I can not tell her whom she has in her home at what time that isn't anyone else's business but hers" followed by "We're not ordering a CAFCASS and CRB check on her partner on the basis of you don't feel she's allowed to have a relationship whilst being a mother"

Some people just need a reality check

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 05/12/2013 11:30

I WANT your judge checkedpjs :-D

kinkyfuckery · 05/12/2013 12:13

I've been separated from my DCs father for over five years. During this time he has flitted from one relationship to the next (and back again, and overlapping), introducing her to the DCs early on each time. I can guarantee that when the day comes that I get into a serious relationship with a man that gets involved with the kids he will get incredibly butthurt and jealous. To him, it works one way but not the other.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 12:31

NewBeginning he was lovely!! The best one I had put Lo's DF right in his place and he hated every second. Because he's 18 years or so older he thinks he can tell me what to do and I have to obliged he's still not got over this haha

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Monetbyhimself · 05/12/2013 16:10

Swivelling is all they're good for Grin

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/12/2013 16:15

Some people are arseholes OP. this isnt exclusive to exes or men or women. It is emotional immaturity. Some grow up and realise they were once an arsehole and some will forever be an arsehole.

The best way to deal with them is to disengage. Rolls your eyes when they spout crap if you cant avoid hearing it. But do try and limit interactions with people like that. In general be a duck and let their crap roll off your back like water. Its the only way. You cant change them so no point reacting to it.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 16:29

He's just given this advise to all of his 'mates' "Never give up and when they dont have any common sense about them or the wit to listen or understand, continue to be a thorn in their side and never let go."

It's hard to believe he's so in love with his DP the way he drones on! I wish he'd go out and get a life or get hit by a bus

He's such a loser

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/12/2013 16:32

Are you reading his fb? Stop doing that if so- you're only going out of your way to get wound up- which is idiotic- move on.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 16:41

No, he post all over these "Fathers Rights" group which comes up all over family/friends FB, He's firmly blocked and deleted as well as his family

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YoureBeingASillyBilly · 05/12/2013 16:44

Ah- delete/hide/ block any fathers rights pages he is on and anyone who has like the pages. Doesnt do you any good to see constant reminders that he exists.

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CheckedPjs · 05/12/2013 17:28

Yeah I need to, he's a waste -.-

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