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dad who wanted contact called police cos i arranged contact :s

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honey86 · 04/12/2013 14:21

i posted on here when i was preg about my exes behaviour so some may already know of my story.
since my last post, the dust had settled abit. so after seeking advice, i decided to give him a chance to prove himself and meet his baby son.
i got a mutual, neutral friend to mediate between us. arranged it in a public place, supervised by this friend. he agreed, then demanded it be in a place of his choice, with cctv. i told friend to choose a public place, with cctv as requested, where neither me nor him had chosen so its fair. few days passed with no response.
this morning found out hes blocked us all, and left a message saying hes contacted police, that they advised him not to turn up to contact, and go to court. another friend told me hes wrote on facebook that hes 'scared of what i might do'.Blush
i have no idea what hes said to police or what hes accused me of but im really worried n upset. all i did was do what i thought was the adult thing, bearing in mind what the courts prefer to happen with mediation.
im so confused... i just bit the bullet n did what i thought i had to do for my son. he was moaning publicly that i werent allowing contact, but now i did, he called the cops?? could i get in trouble for arranging contact even though it was supervised? what happens now? what happens if it goes to court?

i just dont understand how he could do this, or be so heartless. he was in bed with someone else while i gave birth, didnt answer the phone to the social worker and is now playing happy families with someone new.
and is now back to slagging me off for him not seeing his son! Shock
am i even making sense? i dont know what to do Sad

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isitme1 · 04/12/2013 14:32

I would get in contact with a family solicitor

Make sure this friend will stick by what they have said and done too.

nefelibata · 04/12/2013 14:39

see a solicitor and ask your friend to write down a statement of the agreement you all came to, for your Sol to keep. Then forget him and wait.

My opinion is that he is likely all hot air and won't spend the time or money required for a contact order to be put in place. If he does and you have sensible reasons for graduating contact, starting at supervised, a court will order it on your behalf anyway.

Twunts are always twunts. I have learned to expect this :(

read this story often to remind yourself what he is like!

starlight1234 · 04/12/2013 19:24

This doesn't add up to me...I cannot imagine the police telling anyone not to turn up to contact and go to court...

I would keep all messages for evidence , and I expect he enjoys playing the victim rather than seeing the baby

honey86 · 06/12/2013 21:22

yup hes now back to slagging me off bout him not having contact. my poor baby boys dad rejected contact with him n hes trying to put the blame on me. Angry whyyy would a supposedly desperate dad do this ? nothing hes doing is in his kids best interests only his own, so bloody selfish! :(

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starlight1234 · 06/12/2013 23:46

because he isn't really interested in the child...just playing the victim and making you look bad...

You need to ignore this nonsense...Anyone who is importnant for their opinion to matter will know the truth the rest don't matter...

DS will know nothing about this so in many ways at this point is not affected...

Some of this may be about control so ignore it and only respond to anything you have to..Leave him to play his games on his own

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