First date in 16 years - what am I doing?!!

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Stbexh left me and 11 yr old dd last August after 15 years together, marriage and business, but was a compulsive liar and an A on almost every level. I have been chatting to someone I met online who seems like the male equivalent of me, and he wants us to meet for a coffee. I am so confused!!! Can anyone help reassure me if I am crazy to be doing this? I would not tell DD until something had developed/progressed along the line, and he agrees too as he has DC. But I am terrified! Do online dating things ever work out? What if theyre 30 miles away, or a loonatic?! And how do I get used to the idea of someone calling me beautiful and lovely, when Ive only ever heard otherwise

Ok firstly lets re-ground you from the ceiling . It is a coffee. That could be 20mins or several hours.

Is he localish to you?
You are meeting in a public place aren't you....
Ensure a trusted adult to you knows where you are and text them when you get there and when you leave.

If they are a loonatic then you smile sweetly and leave.
When a compliment is paid then smile sweetly and say thanks.

Ooh how exciting though!

Thanks Pancake my tummy is doing flips already lol!
Yes public place, he lives 30 miles away but is more than happy to come to me??? Friend knows where I am going, I am sooo near to backing out, but I want to see him? Why does that feel guilty?

Sorry to give you a reality check but you may be disappointed when you meet him. I met 15 guys. All ranging from disappointing to hugely disappointing, hence why I don't do od anymore! I hope he's a good one!

What's the worst that can happen? The date is a flop and he's a prick? At least you have had the courage to put yourself out there and meet new people. You can always make excuses and leave ??

True! I will update you :)