Would you do it all over again by yourself again?

[MuffCakes]

So found out I'm pregnant by ex, I already have 2 dc 8 and 6 and have raised them alone. Dd didn't even meet her dad till she was 5 and ds hasn't seen his dad since he was a baby.

I really want this baby now but Im dreading the thought of doing it all over alone again. I also feel selfish that I will be bringing another baby into the world without a decent dad.

if you have other support and finance to do it then what is the issue?

some people get pregnant then the father dies or is killed eg soldier., should they not get pregnant?

I have raised my LO by myself and I'd do it all over again by myself. He's loved enough there could be 1000 dads in his life he'd still be loved the same amount and more.

In a heartbeat.
I have friends, family, work etc. I reckon one child as a single parent is much easier than one with two - given some friends,family, money etc. Probably having more get's harder.
However I have been lone parent since conception so I only speak from observation!

Yes a thousand times over. I have no envy of cou

I wouldnt go back. It's been hard enough doing it as a lp the first time round. I couldnt show my face if i had another child with no dad and as a single parent.
Everybody is going to say love will make it the waltons.
Id have an abortion in a heartbeat if i got pregnant. Could face the judging all over again.

Whoops not sure what happened there but yes I would do it a thousand times over alone.

I'm always grateful I don't have a relationship to deal with which also centres around my child. I personally would find that really hard. I love making all the decisions and feel relieved that I don't need to modify what I think/compromise with another person...I like my own space :0)Having my child alone is and always has been the best thing I have ever done. I think it's other peoples expectations which can give the (IMO false) impression that it's somehow harder than for a couple...

I would love another child at some point. My DS is 4 tomorrow and I think if I was in another relationship it could be an option. My niece is 1 and my nephew is 6 months so my baby need is fulfilled at the moment. I've joked to people if in another 5 yrs I'm still not with someone and feel broody I would get a sperm donor but can't even imagine doing it on my own right now. By then I could have another niece or nephew so who knows.

It's a close run thing. If it wasn't for our DS I would by now have nothing to do with my ex whatsoever and would be more than happy with that.

As it stands I have to communicate with her (although she does her best to avoid that) and she uses him as weapon whenever she can.

Why do you keep having unprotected sex with these people that you yourself do not consider to be 'decent dads'?

Becoming a lone parent due to a relationship breakdown is one thing but having 3 kids to 3 different fathers who all seem not to give a damn about you or your child is just selfish and irresponsible.

And what about the men who get someone pregnant then just walk away? Oh sorry, it's always the woman's fault isn't it.