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Starting a new relationship - feeling a little overwhelmed!

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NeveroddoreveN · 18/11/2013 22:46

I am hoping for a few words of wisdom from any of you who have managed relationships after at least a year alone... I am just embarking on one with a (seemingly) lovely man and I am feeling in a spin.
We are both trying to take it slowly, and due to various other commitments in our lives we have to, for now.
I have a DD who is 2 and I suppose what worries me is that she gets attached and somehow this doesn't work out. I am very clear to him that she comes first and he completely gets that and agrees, which is lovely.
There really is nothing wrong with him at all other than he is very very keen, which is nice but I am very used to my independence and sometimes feel like I am possibly not being as enthusiastic as him. I just don't feel the need and I suppose I don't want to give too much, if that makes sense, in case it goes wrong.
Is this just a take each day as it comes scenario or should I be putting ground rules down? Did any of you have discussions on topics such as telling off your child (luckily haven't had an issue with this but am wondering how it will feel if he sees fit to do so) or perhaps what to do if your child calls them Daddy very soon?
Sorry for rambling post; I think I am in shock that I have dared to try again, as to be honest I was pretty happy solo and didn't think I would bother with another man again! TIA

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Lonecatwithkitten · 18/11/2013 22:53

A piece of advice I was given by a friend who had three young DC when she divorced was don't introduce the DC to your squeeze until you are sure they are a keeper.

NeveroddoreveN · 18/11/2013 23:12

That's sound advice Lonecat, I have already broken it though, as only have friends around for support and so babysitting options aren't plentiful. She hasn't seen us holding hands or anything yet though, so he could just be a male friend...

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