Feeling sad :(

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Had a quiet play day indoors today.. & noticed so many clever & funny things ds 21 months has done ... And feel so sad there is nobody else to see it & share it with.

Kids can be so funny but it's not the same laughing alone

HUGS I know exactly how you feel, it sucks. I have made extra special effort to see my extended family more as a result, and my neighbours have been brilliant. Are there others who love your DS who you can spend a bit more time with? It's horrible feeling alone and no-one will make up for his dad being absent, but with time and company those feelings do lessen.

Have an older dd who is 11 (his half sister) & she is fab with him but it's not the same as seeing a dad's pride.
My family don't live close by although I send them lots of photos & videos .. Guess I feel sad for ds & sad for me.. Hate admitting I'm lonely makes me sound like a saddo

I know how you feel. I dont know what terms you are on with your exp but could u take pics and send them? I've done that with pics my dd has made. maybe keep a notebook of things you notice to share with your ds when he is older.

I do agree though. I'm very new to all this and dreading holidays etc with no one to share it with. but fundamentally I then think its my Dh's loss.

Ds's dad has never wanted to be in his life .... Foolish man he's missing out on such a fab little boy!!

exactly as you say , foolish man. absolutely his loss and just think of the precious things you are getting he isn't as much as you can in a positive way. you are the blessed one to have your ds

In exactly the same boat girlies...

Ds is 13 months and I have been bringing him up on my own for the last 9 months but really since he was born ex is now a major twat absent but like you said when ds does all those little things its him that's missing out..
Last week I was feeling abit Eurgh about the whole thing , ya know doing it all by myself, never having any 'me' time and then...

Ds came up to me out of nowhere and kissed me on the cheek with his little pouty fish lips it's the first time he's shown me any affection because obviously he's still quite young so couldnt before .. it was so sweet and just reminded me why I am doing it all......brought a little tear my eye ....well, I cried like a baby and there may have been snot

So everytime your feeling crap remember those moments that make it all worthwhile (did that sound as cheesy I think?!?)

it sounded lovely :)

My DS1 (3) tells me how much he loves his family (me, DS2 and him - in his words) and tells me regularly that I am his best friend and DS2 is his favourite person.

My DS2 (16months) now kisses me enthusiastically and runs up to me yelling Mama! Mama!

These things carry me through the broken nights, the broke-ass lifestyle and the feelings of bitterness when ex-twunt and OW put on family-tastic disney weekends.

You are all doing brilliantly, and one day soon your little DC will be able to tell you themselves how grateful they are xx

I know how you feel, I'm bringing up my 5yr old ds on my own and have been since he was born and sometimes feel sad that I can't share how fantastic he is with his father, but then he will turn around and say 'I love you mummy, you're the best' and I realise I don't want to share him with anyone :)

Thanks everyone... Having a tough few days!
Both kids are my world... Ds can be so loving & such hard work too..
Would be nice to share both aspects with someone! Still the day is nearly done (fingers crossed for a settled night).. Tomorrow is a new day