he wants ds one week on and one week off.

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x shithead of a partner has decided that he wants ds who is 3.5 one week on one week off. I really do not want this as i think it will upset ds and i dont think he is ready to meet the other woman as one minute we are getting married then daddy is naughty then not here.
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Had a few lovely days away, feel the stress being back already. Next thing is a job.

Setting aside the drink driving thing for a moment (and I'm not saying that's not a real issue) I'm actually quite an advocate for 50:50 care arrangements. My dd has had this since age 1 and is now 4. No problems with her being settled. Yes I miss her a lot but my ex is a great dad and she gets so much out of her time with him. It also gives me a bit of free time too! My number one rule was always to think about what's best for DD and try and squash my own personal desires. Its really hard during a break up and there were times when I wanted to punish him but in the end I truly believe its worked out in her best interests.

It worked with me-- lived a week with my dad and a week with my mum.
However my dad was great.
I would never agree to it with my dd's dad... he is a good 'once a week' type parent but far too disorganised and selfish to have her 50% of the time...

Thankyou for the last 2 posts, i think it could work with alot of parents that really want to be parents, i however do not think he does. He is far too slefish to even call ds on a regular basis or ven come and see him 2 times in the last 3 weeks. Not very good. He wont reply to ds emails either which hurts ds and he is still very angry at daddy.