Exh 'can't afford' his own place so has to stay living with ow?!

[Sasquatch75]

What a load of horsetrash!!

Ever since he left nearly 3 months ago, exh has been promising our boys that he'll get his own place soon and will make it a second home for them. They are still excited about this prospect... However, he's living with the ow and as the relationship is 'serious', I can't imagine he'll be moving out, unless they break up.

He keeps telling me he doesn't ever lie to the boys, and can't afford to get a place on his own, but it seems to me he needs to be honest with himself and then everyone else too.

He takes home over £2k a month after CM payments... You can rent a 2 bed house here for £500pcm!

why cant boys visit him at the place he staying? she could go out or leave them in peace to be together ?

Where does he see them at present ?

He hasn't told them who she is yet, although she and her kids spend quite a bit of time with our kids when exh has them. Our 4 year old knows where daddy is living as he asked him outright last weekend and exh didn't want to lie. Our 6 year old still thinks daddy is staying at his friend's flat.

They want to sleep over at daddy's place just with daddy... Atm he takes them to his parents house overnight.

The ex of a friend of mine STILL tells her the OW is his 'flatmate', after a full year.

You just have to shrug and leave him to his lies - the kids will work out eventually that the OW's house is where they stay with Dad, and exactly how much his promises are worth.

Sorry X-post!

Thanks, yeah I know what you're saying. I just worry about my boys' feelings being hurt. Do you think I should just tell my 6 year old where daddy is living? I don't want him to feel like everyone else knows but him. Or maybe I'm overthinking things?

2.5 years and my children are still waiting....

IMO..no don't tell him...

My son is 6 ..if he found out something big he didn't know it would be how he feels about it not about who knows what...

I don't imagine it will be long before he finds out if the 4 year old knows...

just be there if he needs you when he finds out

You can't stop their feelings being hurt. Tell truth or say I don't know if asked.

Read huge bag of worries Virginia Ironsides with them let them know it s ok to talk about anything that worries them and that you there for them.

Thanks, I've just ordered that book :) Has some great reviews on amazon.

Poor little monkeys :( really feel for them. They deserve so much more...