Just another rant

[taurusmum85]

My child's father moved to oz 2 years ago with the idea that we would all move over eventually this is now not happening but he has decided to stay there I am so hurt that he has chosen to abandon his child like this for no good reason. I arranged skyping every week which he more often then not doesn't do and he is drifting further and further away he has now not seen his son on Skype for a month and has not asked me about him for 3 weeks luckily my son is only 3 and is used to him not being around but eventually he will ask about his father and what do I tell him? It kills me that he cares this little about his own child. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do for my son growing up or have a similar story?

I am so sorry that this has happened. It's massively weak and cowardly of your son's Dad to have run away like this...the only thing I can say is that I know a few children, boys included who have absent Fathers and yet have grown into wonderful young men.

One friend's Dad left when he was days old but the friend did fine without him and is now the principal of a drama college in London...he owns a house (a pretty posh one!) and has a full life and a family. ..he did just FINE with no Dad around but a wonderful, loving Mum instead....Your son has YOU....in your shoes, with an unresponsive Dad for my child I would fall into a routine of writing cards and letters, sending pictures and letting my son see photos. I know your son may ask questions which are hard to answer...but honesty is best and you can say "Your Dad works in Australia...it's a very long way away and when you're big, if you like you can go and visit him."

And also, try hassling the Dad into talking on the phone with DS...does he reply when you phone him? Does he pay for his son at all?

My son won't talk to him on the phone other then hello and it costa fortune , skyping haas gotten very awkward my son just won't sit there and talk to him so have to bribe him to sit on my lap while I read a book and his dad looks on. He pays for him but when it suits him After he's paid for everything he wants to do. I feel very resentful sometimes that I rarely have any me time and meeting someone new is virtually impossible as I have very little help but then I feel so guilty too