Hi... I'll try not to go too indepth with my situation...
I am 28, my eldest is 10, I also have a 7 yr old and a 2 yr old.
The eldest 2 have no contact with their father, I was very young when met him. I was on my own a long time with them 2 then I met my 2 yr olds Dad, he moved in and our DS was planned, when I was 6 months pregnant he walked out, to top if off DS was born with Down Syndrome, undiagnosed until he was 2 days old. He has continually made life hell threatening court, we've been to mediation. We now have a meeting point for handover, have very little communication but DS still sees him regularly.
Anyway after 2 years on my own, April this year I meet a guy, it was just casual but was so nice to have some attention, first nights out in years when DS was with his Dad and older 2 at friends or with babysitter, really felt like I was living life again. In May I find out I am 3+4 weeks pregnant, I tested as I just instinctively knew... I was on the pill and booked to have the coil fitted. Was devastated, I know how bad that sounds :(
I had only met the guy weeks before, he was torn between saying baby not his to he would be there for us. I hadn't slept with anyone since my DS Dad 2 years before so no paternity concerns, not from me anyway lol.
Anyway I was torn what to do... but deep down knew I couldn't terminate so here I am 5 months pregnant with baby number 4 and single again!!
The current "ex" has gone from being supportive and never walking away, even if we not together to hating me, can't stand to be near me, threatening to commit suicide. I have ignored him for the last 3 weeks but dread bumping into him.
On top of this when my 2 yr olds Dad found out I was pregnant he called social services and reported me to benefits for benefit fraud!!
Social services visited and said closing case, and took it as just a malicious call, benefits on the other hand, I have tried to explain it was a casual relationship, and he wasn't living here, been to compliance interviews so waiting to hear the outcome.
Sounds such a drama writing it all down!! I am just dreading how to arrange contact when baby born, whether this guy is gonna step up and how I'm gonna cope with 4 kids, when my 2 yr old doesn't even walk or talk yet!!
So I'm wondering if any ladies would like to talk, inbox if you can, new to Mumsnet and chat. Esp if pregnant and single as be nice to talk to ladies in same position. Any questions fire away. Just hope to talk to new people x