Hi everyone, haven't been on here for a long time and just after a bit of advice/opinions.
My son is 8 and sees his dad every other Tuesday after school until half 6 so 3 hours. Son likes this and does not want to go any more than that. Ex is fine with it to, there is no other contact like phone calls etc.. and he doesn't check in in between times, it is literally just those 3 hours. Every few months the ex will have a moan and then leave it.
Last week ex messaged to say his shifts had changed and he didn't have the Tues but has Sat/Sun off and he would try and change it, I said don't worry have him for the day on Saturday, he said great he'd take him out for the day. Saturday came, he collected him at 11am came back 40 mins later to change him and then dropped him home at 7.30. My son was very deflated when he got in and said he didn't want to go for a whole day again only a half day, ( I had to persuade him to go all day Saturday so felt bad) I asked what he had done and he had gone to the shops to get his dad a new suit and then gone to pick up dads girlfriend from work, he said he was in the car for hours, I thought he was being dramatic but he mentioned place names hed seen and I remembered ex met her at work, then saw a receipt in sons bag and her work is minimum 3 hr round trip, would be longer on a Sat afternoon. My son was looking forward to a day out with daddy but he did't get it and still maintaining the half day.
Im just a bit frustrated really, don't understand why he missed his chance to half quality time with his son, instead he has let him down again. Son already refuses more contact or to use his surname. I would have loved them to have a relationship as I lived with my dad and know how great fathers are! Ex just doesn't seem to want to be there!
I know there probably isn't much people can say but would love opinions on whether to say to dad he was disappointed and at 8 would you say a child should be listened to with regards to their opinions about contact?!
Thank you!