I'm new at all this...

[therewearethen]

So it's been 3 weeks at single parenthood, I was just wondering if you tell your ex's of every little milestone or thing that has happened during the week and if so how?

E.g DD1 has done some new things in school this week, and DD2 has cut a new tooth, started to pull herself along the floor and can go from laying to sitting up unaided.

So you text everything as it happens or write it down and hand over at the end of the week?

Sorry for babbling, this is all very new!

Hard call. Some separated parents seem to managed to be courteous & polite and remaining jointly engaged in their children's development. Others don't.

If you are not speaking & are communicating via paper or email, then writing it down does seem like a good way of informing the other parent of milestones, things that happened etc.

Your elder DD may be able to tell your ex herself about school things.

Sorry not to have any clear instructions, it will vary.

Good luck with everything - it does gets easier! (I'm 10 years down the line)

It very much depends on your raltionship and how amicable you can be...Would he have been interested before...I would personally avoid texting every little detail as it can become a chore as they grow..Assuming ex is seeing the children can you not give him the main points at handover..

I used to send updates about my son..never got acknowledgement of them never mind thank you...He then complained he didn't get them..

Every case is different so ti depends on what will work for you long term..Like previous poster unless it is something as parents you need to deal with leave school child to explain school stuff

don't start something that you can't keep up.

he can go to parents evenings to find out what she is doing in school. you can tell him about things like star of the week or gymnastics awards, say.

any sen could be discussed too.

Me and exp have a handover book, like a diary, that we jot things down in, from milestones for youngest, achievements at school for oldest, to really mundane stuff like if they had calpol the day of going to his house and requests for clothes returned etc.

It seems to work very well -unless dp is in a massive piss with me and uses it as a way of criticising my parenting. For example, saying I need to cut the kids nails more often, cut their hair, cut down on tv, there is a small mark on ds's jumper, yadeeyadeeya .

My two are 4 and 6 so they tell their Dad most things. I speak to him when I hand over the kids to him usually just things regarding their health, tiredness, mood, behaviour that day if it affects him.

He does miss out on things but I say 'tough shit' you walked out so you miss out on things. He sees it all anyway, just not as much as me.