its my birthday tomorrow and ive had to cancel all my plans...again.

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I'm aware that I'm being unreasonable here (well actually part of me thinks I'm not) but I'm annoyed and feeling sorry for myself.

Background,
Ex and I have 2 dc together (who live with me). His gf has 2dc (who live with them) and they have a newborn.
Ex has the dc eow, last week was meant to be 'his' week, but we went away, so obvs he couldn't have them. He was fine with this btw.

He saw the dc midweek, and when he dropped them off said to them "ok, see you on Saturday for a sleepover" I pointed out that he had at no point asked me to swap weekends, and that he couldn't assume that we were. Also as its my birthday tomorrow I might have had plans. As it happens, it was ok for him to have them, and I said so, but just pointed out that he should check.
Consequently, when a friend text asking if I had plans, and inviting me over for a girlie night in a desperate attempt to recreate our teenage years I accepted.

X has just text me saying actually he can't have them as they have midwife in the morning, and drs in the afternoon. As a result I've got to cancel my plans, as always. And get to spend my birthday evening with 2 children who will play up, which they always do when their dad cancels on them. :(

I appreciate that he has a newborn however although I can't understand why he can't pick them up after drs but just needed a self pitying rant.

You have every right to rant and moan. Have you asked him why he can't collect them after his imaginary Saturday afternoon doctors appointment?

How old are your DC? Surely they could go to the doctors with him, with a book or ds to entertainment them?

Happy birthday for tomorrow

yes surely yours can do whatever his are doing while they're at these appointments????

text back - as you were having them I have now made plans its to late for me to rearrange now though we could alter pick up time till after your saturday afternoon doctors appointment, let me know what time it is and I will op them roudn afterwards

Happy Birthday

I replied saying "well surely you can get them after the drs?" But as always no reply.

I'm happy to have them until then, I'd like to spend some of the day with them, after all, they are my babies. And actually, had I not made plans, based on him saying he'd have them, I'd have been happy to have them all evening too.

Thanks balls

thisis that's a good point, can you even get Saturday appointments??

I can certainly see my gp on a saturday morning, whereas others do evening stuff so some may now do saturday afternoon.

see never text with a statement that doesn't need to be replied to - make sure it needs to be replied to

text now and say I will drop them round at 6pm as I am sure the gp will be done and dusted by then.

Not liekly they will be far from home with a new baby

I will see if friend can come here, so all is not lost.
I'm totally skint so going anywhere is out of the question, and last time I tried that they just played up as soon as I got home. I'm sure well have a lovely day though, we always do!

ivykaty I didn't know that, its been so long since I had to see the gp. (thankfully) I would drop them at his, but a, don't drive, and b, don't know where he lives!

Also just realised it wasn't thisis who questioned sat appointments, sorry!

Why don't you know where he lives? Curious, not accusing.

He refuses to tell me, and I can't make him.

I sure as shit would tell my ex that he wasn't having the kids unless I knew where he was taking them,he sounds like a TOSSER,hope you had a nice birthday xxx