Timing for divorce

[Narabug01]

My ex left in jan after a couple of years of a really deteriorating relationship. He has had chronic financial problems which have caused trust issues in our marriage. He has spent most of the last couple of years working away from home but has not contributed financially to the household. I have struggled to support the family for manyyears.
Having left he has met someone else and even though i have tried to save our family snd marriage he has admitted to sleeping with her.
He has introdiced her to our children 2 dds and his family have even invited her to their house!
I am really heartbroken and was really mad when he admitted to sleeping with her. I just felt like it was another kick in the guts! So i filed for divorce which is progressing now. Trouble is i just feel very very depressed and want my family back together. I think i have been hasty in doing it. What happens if he changes his mind and wants to come back and i have stopped him by filing for divorce.
Any advise would be grateful. X

I'm sorry you are so sad. The fact that he is clearly having a relationship with someone else means in his mind the chapter of your marriage is over. Considering his previous financial problems I think you are doing the right thing getting a divorce ( make sure you get a financial consent order).
You need to concentrate on making a new life for you and our DC. Do you have friends IRL you can talk to?
I do know how you feel different order of how things happened for me. It took me 6 months to make the decision that I needed to make my own life apart from Ex. I joined a choir made new friends. The hurt is till there it has only been just over a year, but it's not every day.

Thanks. Yes i am finding it tough at the moment and think antidepressants might be the solution in the short term just to help me cope with life.
Just have this massive regret that this is happening as our family life will change forever. So sad. I think if i hadn't organised the divorce maybe there would be hope of a future 2gether 4 us.
I am also just very lonely at the moment. I will join a choir but have a fear of bumping into his girlfriend when i am out so i tend to just stay in.
Also some of his friends are giving me the cold shoulder treatment which i find difficult!!!

Hi OP. Of course you are feeling lonely and sad. Your whole world is falling apart. I am just wondering what makes you think that there is a chance to get your xH back? Do you honestly want him back or you just don't want to feel lonely?