How to cope as a single parent- need advice as i have just joined the club!

[jellyjelly]

Found out my husband to be in two weeks time has been seeing someone else. He doesnt want to have anything to do with us or so it is coming across and need some advice on how to cope.

No advice, just sympathy. Good luck.

its good that it happened before you got married, you are lucky. i am sure you will recover and will have many nice days with your child. try to focus on something else. first days will be difficult, you will feel the gap he left, but later you may enjoy being alone with your child. that's my view. wish you good luck.

jellyjelly - Not the same reasons for a split.... but as you know I'm in the same boat as of 6th June.

I'm just lucky that I don't miss him as such (well I do miss the OLD him)... just need to sort out the practicalities. So difficult. I still can't believe he's done this to you!!!

Hiya Jelly :)

So sorry about everything thats happened to you.

It is hard at first being on your own I was in a very simular position as your self and left with a 5 mth old and 2.5 year old at the time. After the initial grief period wore off I actually started to feel a massive surge of relief (but everyones different of course) as I was a stay at home mum when he left, I had to go on benefits which I hated but needs must & then I decided enough was enough I'm not gonna let my babies see me down, I got a job and a £300 car so I could travel to the better opportunity areas of work. Then life got better. The girls only see their dad 3 times a year which is really sad for them but I smother them with affection and just do the best I can.

It's not really advice there but you are not alone sweetie this will make you stronger than youve ever been :) You will be fine I'm absolutley sure of it!!

Neither can i one of his ushers girlfirend who i dont know very well called said how are you, i am comig over, which will make me feel good.

can i ask what beenfits you get, i need to knwo if it is worth working only get 526 for full time work per month. Mortgage is 730 per month bills much more.

Jelly - My friends have been good too. People that I know from work have even.... been round with chocolate and bitching!!!!