Really need some impartial advice!

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Hi everyone! would really appreciate some honest advice. I just feel so unsure of what to do. Basically the problem is my dh. I'm sick of the way he talks to me, especially in front of the kids. He gets angry real easy and then will either tell me to f off or call me a bitch etc etc. Afterwards he'll apologise and I'll say to him that I will not have him speaking to me that way but I suppose because there's no repercussions he keeps on doing it. What do I do? I'm just so sick of him but is leaving the answer? Is there another way to get my point across? He's the breadwinner so not sure how we'd cope. We have a 9yo ds and 6yo dd. I don't really talk to anyone about this so would really love some advice.

ltb you'll be fine

I kicked mine out 2 weeks ago for some rubish ongoing behaviour that all came to a head. Admittedly I have been up and down but then I realised today the house has never looked better, i'm sleeping better than I ever have, think I will manage to pay all next months bills and not heard my DD laugh so much in her life. YOU CAN DO THIS.

He's an abusive arse. Leave him. You'll all be better off.

Hi.Do you have any friends or family who could tackle this with him? Do you have any support locally? Does he say it to you just at home or in front of others? Is there any physical abuse? Even if not, what he is doing is abuse - emotional and psychological. He is also damaging your children - they should not be exposed to this. So....have a look at www.freedomprogramme.co.uk and national domestic abuse hotline: www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk
or refuge - 0808 2000 247.
He sounds like a bully and you need all the support you can get. Let me know if you need any more help. Good luck! Maeve x

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply. I have a good network of friends and family but I haven't really told them about anything. I don't know why. There's been a few instances over the 12 years where I've called my mum and she's really good at being a mediator between us. I haven't really got support locally. He wouldn't talk to me like that in front of my family but he does create a tension when they're around, like he pushes them away even though they've done so much for him. There's no physical abuse but you're right, this is bad enough. I won't pretend I'm a Saint. I'm guilty of calling him names but only when I'm provoked and when the kids aren't around. I feel like I'm nagging all the time about the same things and I'm just sick of the way things are. If someone said to me, "here's your own home for you and the kids" I'd be gone now I tthink. The only issues I have are how the children would cope. My mum has been very supportive in the past and would continue to be but she knows first hand the effect a divorce can have on children, especially boys. I suppose I don't know which of the two evils is worse! I don't know how we'd get by money wise. How do other mums get by?! Anyway folks, sorry this is a bit ranty but I really appreciate all of you taking time out to listen. Thanks @mabeg3 I'll have a look at that website xx