My first ever post in this section..... when your children stay with their father....

[LadyTambaOfTambaTown]

How do you feel about it?

DH and I only sperated a week ago so this is all very new to me. He has them tonight and also saturday and sunday night.

I am not sure how I feel about it, he is an amazing father and the kids will love spending time with him. But what about me? I am lonely, and feel left out and am rattling round the house with nothing to do and it feels so empty.

Im being silly really, but I dont know how im supposed to feel. Ive called them to say goodnight and arranged a family day out for us all tommorrow so I get to see them and so that they see mommy and daddy having a nice time together. I want to keep everything as normal as possible. Dh and I are still on friendly terms so thats ok.

I just dont like them being away :(

You're bound to feel weird to start with. Can you go out for a couple of nice evenings with friends?

If he's a great dad try not to worry too much, once you're used to the routine you'll havea great time going out meeting new people whilst you have a free babysitter

Ive arranged to go out tommorrow night so im not stuck in on my own. I really dont want to go anywhere but will probably feel worse stuck in the house alone.

I am tempted to pnone and tell them all to come home, and say he can stay here to see the kids, but that would be a mistake, so have put the phone away from me!

Is it just the change of routine that is getting to you do you think?

I guess you are still coming to terms with the break up as it's so recent(?) - that won't help how you feel either..

He only moved out on Sunday so it is still really raw. I dont know if it will be perminate or not yet.

Ive spent all week moaning how ive been left with the hard work whilst hs being looked after at his mothers so I guess i should be greatful for the peace. But i think you are right that its the change of routine thats thrown me. Since dh has been gone, me and DS has sat up and watched a DVD (harry potter type thing) and had lots of time together whilst DS2 is in bed so he has been my only company all week. How sad is that! My 4 year old is my best friend

Maybe it is good to get out tommorrow! I really ought to do the mountian of house work thats sitting there waiting for me, but cant be bothered!

hey, that's what it's like! I have a house full of work but I'm watchin Channel4 drinking alcohol and posting here!. My dd will be 4 at end of month - it's a fab age! Think you get closer to your children when you're on your own with them.

Also, as breakup is so raw you're bound to be emotional, especially if it's not clean cut and you might get back together. don't phone, if you're confident in their dads ability don't call. Slip into a bath and get those legs shave and moisturised ready for tomorrow!

It is horrible to begin with Tamba, but it does get easier. Just try and enjoy the peace and quiet and don't spend too much time thinking. :)

Hi Tamba - I haven't got to that stage yet..... kinda dreading it!

Mind you, at least your H has somewhere to take the kids! My H will only be able to afford a one bedroomed rented flat. Hardly great for 2 kidsunder the age of 5.

You don't have to feel lonely, you have MN.