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Son off on his hols with dad.

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Ange1972 · 22/08/2013 20:29

Just wondering if any other lone parents feel like you've had one of your limbs chopped off when child goes away with ex? My DS off abroad for a week tonight with ex and Trollop he ran off with and later married. I'm sat on my own, constantly checking flight status's as they've not taken mobiles so have no contact now till they return in just over a week! It's horrible. As much as I desperately need a break I'm also desperately missing him!!

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ivykaty44 · 22/08/2013 20:31

make sure you stay busy as when dc come bak they alway ask me what I have been up to and I like to be able to let them know i am fine (they worry I might get lonely [bless])

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Ange1972 · 22/08/2013 21:58

Thanks Hun..... I am busy working but if I recall when he went to Florida last year he broke his heart on coming back and didn't give a monkeys what I'd been up to!! Lol Wink

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Lackedpunchesforever · 22/08/2013 22:42

It's crap. Especially when you didn't sign up to be apart from your child for long periods of time! But focus on the lie ins, the not having to share the choccies and his little face when he sees you again Smile

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Ange1972 · 23/08/2013 19:51

It's the lack of control I feel? What if he needs me? What if something happens? I know I'm thinking irrationally but these are the thoughts going thru my head! It's so upsetting as when goes away then cones home he misses his dad more than he is glad to see me if that makes sense? It is so awful and no I certainly didn't sign up for this as I didn't choose to be a lone parent HmmHmmHmm x

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Bythebeach · 23/08/2013 20:24

I feel similarly....my eldest is my ex's. He returned last night from two weeks with his dad.

It feels weird and un-natural and alienating to have no contact with my child. When he was little it killed me. Now I am grateful to my hubby and younger two for keeping me busy.

When my boy returns, he misses his dad for a couple of days and is very jealous of anything we have done in his absence. He is also very critical and challenging. I still hate it.....but I know it's good he has a strong bond with his dad.

In my secret-est heart of hearts, I worry that the years of enforced coping with weeks of physical and emotional distance has weakened my bond with my eldest but I know I've done the right thing enabling and never sabotaging bond with his dad I guess....

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Ange1972 · 23/08/2013 20:27

I think you've mirrored how I feel isn't it hard?! Thing is I don't have any family and I'm single so only have work to take my mind off things. Hmm X

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Bythebeach · 23/08/2013 20:50

OP that must be doubly hard if it's just the two of you. Can you book yourself something indulgent and cheering....a spa day perhaps but whatever suits you...you deserve it.

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Ange1972 · 23/08/2013 21:03

I can't afford it Hmm. But on the plus side I'm working every day so at least I will be busy Grin xx

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