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What did you do with your ring(s)?

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sparkleshine · 22/08/2013 00:42

Ok so me and Ex fiancé split over 2 years ago and I've still got my engagement ring and eternity ring. No idea what to do with them. Some say sell, some day keep. I have been told to keep them for our DS as a reminder that we did love each other once and maybe DS could turn it into something for his own fiancée. Does this seem strange?
A while ago he did actually tell me I should wear them as they are still nice jewellery to wear. Not a chance and not my taste anymore. I've also got other bits of jewellery from the 10+ yrs we were together.
What's the general rule on these things?

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BlackDaisies · 22/08/2013 00:50

Hi there - funny I have also been thinking about this. I still have mine. I'm thinking I will probably sell them. I did love my rings, but the marriage was so bad I don't want to pass them on to my dd really, so think the best use will be to sell them (and put towards the divorce costs!)

PickledMoomin · 22/08/2013 01:47

I'm keeping mine for DD. She can do as she pleases with them- even melt them down and make another ring

Sasquatch75 · 22/08/2013 07:01

I have no idea what I'm going to do but I may well sell them in the future and put the money towards a boob job lol! I've also still got my engagement ring from my ex before that, which is now 14 years old. Didn't have any kids together but I just didn't know what to do with it so I did nothing!

OrangeLily · 22/08/2013 07:05

I got rings from my DM after my parents divorced and to be honest they are a pain in the bum. I feel guilty chucking them in a bin or selling them but they are outdated and why the hell does anyone want rings from a failed marriage?

I would get rid!

Kidsarekarma · 22/08/2013 07:59

I offered mine to DDs - one didn't want, the other did. As far as I'm concerned she can do what she likes with it.

I sold the rest of the jewellery.

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sparkleshine · 22/08/2013 09:28

Would like to sell them but I feel guilty doing it. Both rings are still for sale in the shop they were bought at and double the price. It's tempting.

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RitaFajita · 22/08/2013 09:29

Moved them over

RitaFajita · 22/08/2013 09:32

Oops. Wore them on right hand for a while but it didn't feel right. Have put them away for DD but have often toyed with idea of selling them and like the idea that could do that if really needed to.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 22/08/2013 09:33

I offered my ring back to my ex, he refused, and now I can't even remember where I put it. It has no sentimental value for me, if I found it I'd try and get some badly needed cash seeing as ex isn't working at the minute.

elfycat · 22/08/2013 10:07

I've just re-found DH's wedding ring from his last marriage we'd found it years ago in his stuff and then put it somewhere sensible Well I say 'ring' but I think 'tangled piece of metal' might be more appropriate as he took his tool set to it after she left him for OM.

Anyway, he suggested I sell it and put the money towards the repair of my late grandmother's engagement ring as one of the claws needs replacing, possibly more, before I can wear it again.

Never hold onto something that makes you feel bad, even if it's just a little sigh each time you are reminded. Get rid and make room in your life for something that will make you smile instead.

RedBushedT · 22/08/2013 16:22

I sold mine less than a year after we split up. There was so much anger and bitterness attached to them, I didn't want them in the house. I used the money for Christmas presents for my children which I felt was reasonable. I didn't want to buy anything for me from the money for them as it would have felt tainted.
My mum had suggested I keep them for dd, but why would she want a reminder of her parent's failed marriage?

kittycat68 · 24/08/2013 17:45

I sold mine too couldnt bear to have them around, tried keeping them incase the children wanted them for a few years but it still made me feel physically sick having them in the house! so i sold them and bought new rings, with no bad memories, and my children can have these later on!

just do what feels right for you op!

Inamess1 · 24/08/2013 19:56

I'm keeping mine to pass on to dd and ds. It's always painful seeing them but I think they may have sentimental value to the dc.

onlysettleforbutterflies · 24/08/2013 20:17

I sold my engagement ring and other jewellery he got me and took a friend to Barcelona when it should have been our anniversary, I gave my wedding ring to a very surprised homeless man.

SacreBlue · 24/08/2013 20:26

I gave back an engagement ring on the basis that, despite loving the beautiful piece of jewellery, it would always be a reminder of my ex and his behaviour towards me.

Lots of friends and acquaintances have told me I should have kept it and/or sold it but he was so controlling I felt it was better to 'clear the decks'

Uncharitably, in the very early days, I made light of their suggestions by saying giving it back was cheaper than hiring a hitman to get him to leave me alone.

MarmiteMerriment · 25/08/2013 00:08

I did what Rita did and moved my engagement ring to my right hand. Tried to convince myself of a change of meaning for it, but it doesn't feel right, especially now the divorce is through. Trouble is I've gained weight and now can't get it off. Definitely a good incentive for a diet. When I can, I will defintely sell both rings and treat DC (who have other jewellery keepsakes relating to the marriage).

MagicHouse · 25/08/2013 11:25

For those who sold them, how did you go about doing this? Did you get a valuation first?

onlysettleforbutterflies · 25/08/2013 12:11

I took them to a few pawn shops and went with the one who gave the best price.

ChinaCupsandSaucers · 25/08/2013 14:58

I sold my rings, and all the other jewellery exH bought me, to cover the mortgage when he stopped paying after we split..... He got really arsy about it when he eventually found out (years later) too, saying I should have kept them for DD.

Heyho - that's why he's an ex!!!!

aliciaflorrick · 25/08/2013 16:38

I sold mine six months after we split up. I needed a new computer for work and knew that I would never wear the things again - in fact I couldn't stand the sight of them, funny how you can attach such memories of unhappiness to a couple of pieces of jewellery.

Anyhow, I love the new computer!

kittycat68 · 25/08/2013 20:00

takr them round to jewellers and cash converter type places. take the best price that you can. remember you wont get what you paid for them.

Charotte31 · 25/08/2013 20:27

I got my DM's rings. My parents spilt when I was a child. I wear the eternity everyday, I never take it off. I love it! It is very special to me as it is from a time where my mum and dad were together and happy. :(

twosquared · 26/08/2013 12:51

Charlotte31 its good to know that the rings make you happy. Maybe I'll change my mind about ditching mine to the bottom of the ocean. along with other things i would like to place there from time to time

Almostfree · 26/08/2013 21:24

I sold mine and put the money towards a holiday for me and the children. I took the rings to 3 different jewellers and sold them to the one who gave me the highest price. I only got a few hundred pounds, when the eternity ring alone had cost £2000+.
I had thought of keeping them but ex DH had got so nasty that I was happy to get rid.

Ragwort · 26/08/2013 21:28

I kept the wedding ring as it was actually my mother's wedding ring (my DF had died and she re-married) - I still have it but don't wear it, (have also remarried).

Our Church had a fund raising auction and I gave them my engagement ring to raise money Grin.