Just don't know what to do? Need some help!

[thesnowmanrocks]

Hi, been lurking on here so i hope I'm posting this in right place?

Just wanting to know if any of you lovely ladies have gone through anything like I'm going through at the moment, would like to hear your pearls of wisdom to help get me strong. Sorry rambling.

Well, my dh walked out the door on saturday. We've been going through a bad patch as dh has been of work since april, due to accident and seems like bit of nerve damage in neck. Dh was feeling down which i understand, but dh went to doctors and came back with morphine and other strong painkillers. Even though nothing has been picked up on tests so far. He has been on morphine for 2/3 wks now, and since then he seems to have compleatly withdrawn into himself.
So i came home saturday after taking ds swimming, and we had abit of an arguement, wel more me as he just wasnt talking to me. Dh packed his medication up and walked out door. Not even a bye to the dc.
I find out dh has gone to mil. This is a mil who doesnt want to know her dgc and walks past them in street. It was dh birthday last week and mil didnt even send him a text, card or call. Mil hasnt spoken to him for at least 2 years. Dh wont turn his phone on so cant even disscuss arrangements for dc. I dont know what to do with his stuff? I dont know if to change locks? I just dont know what to do? Its like he's run away and said fuck us all, but how do i know for sure if he wont be contacted? And im sure mil will be dripping poison. I jst need to talk to him, im so so sad im losing weight over this. It feels im in limbo land.
Sorry, didnt mean for it to be long, would just like advice as i cant think staight at the mo.

I think you should just leave it and carry on best you can

No need to change locks or do anything about his stuff. Time will tell on this one

But financially, how do you stand there?

Thankyou. Financially, its me paying everything as he isnt working, so only getting about seventy pounds. So i should be ok.

I suppose i feel si stupid for waiting and being a mess. Its seems so out of character. How long should i give him? Im just in shock, how could he do this to us?

This may not be the case but I take morphine. when I first went on it I went loopy and thought my dh was conspiring against me it was like a drug induced psychosis. As soon as my medication was changed to a different type of morphine I was fine . Tramadol can also do this to people. I wouldn't rule out this being depression due to job loss combined with the opiates.
I hope you can get to speak to your dh, I am so sorry this is happening to you.

Thankyou so much. I think the morphine and the tremadol are alot to blame. Plus the others he is on tooo. I feel the doctor gave them him far too easily. He has an addictive personallity. But while he is at his mothers she wont be helping him out of it.
I feel so lost, but thankyou for your kind words its helping me.