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Some advice please mummies!!

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yummymummy2308 · 19/08/2013 18:01

Hi, my son is nearly one years old and my partner, his daddy left me 9 weeks ago.
He is threatening to take me to court for a contact order. A few weeks ago while my son was in his care, he left him unattended upstairs to sleep, and he had to crawl down the landing and shake the stair gate to tell his dad he was up, this to me is not safe and unacceptable! I asked him to provide a travel cot for him, said he was picking one up and never did so the next time I asked I asked for proof that he now has one. I have said that until I have seen a travel cot or a receipt, my son is not safe and will be staying with me. I have even said that he can take the travel cot from my house! He is refusing to prove that he has a travel cot and is now taking me to court for a contact order. I have always said he can have him on a Wednesday and now said alternate Saturdays, all I want is him to be safe and I really cant let my son go somewhere he is not safe.
Please if anyone has been through similar to this or a contact order and can give me some advice I would be very happy to receive it!

Am I being too protective? I just want my son to be safe, surly that is not wrong?
I don't want to do anything wrong, my intension is all about my son being safe and that's all that matters to me.
As I said advice would be very much appreciated.
Thank you

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titchy · 19/08/2013 22:21

He was unattended upstairs - his father was downstairs and the stair gate locked. That sounds safe to me and probably will to a judge. He doesn't need to prove he has a travel cot to you, any more than you have to prove the same to him. Is your ds fed and watered at his dad's, clean, nappy changed, played with? If so I'm not really sure what the issue is....

titchy · 19/08/2013 22:21

Sorry he WASN'T unattended....

IneedAyoniNickname · 19/08/2013 22:25

Sounds perfectly safe to me too.

Inamess1 · 24/08/2013 19:25

I can understand why you are worried yummymummy, my ex doesn't use car seats for the children, he brings them in the car to pick the kids up so I don't cause a fuss and then drives down the road and takes them out so his gf can sit comfortably in the car. And there is nothing I can do about it, my word against his.
I think in your case the judge would say your child was safe with stair gate in place. My ex has over 20 convictions and the judge didn't take any notice of me.

paperlantern · 25/08/2013 12:48

you are being overprotective. Be prepared, I would be very surprised if the court did not order overnight access

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