asking for a friend.. honest

[helsi]

my friend is 30 in July and has a 3 yr old daughter. Her husband left her when the baby was 10 weeks old and only now sees her twice a week.

Does anyone have any ideas of how my friend can get ut and meet men of a similar situation or who don't mind her having a child? At 30 she feels too young but does not know how to get out there.

the older you get the less chance there is she feels as most men will be snatched up or not wanting a child.

What can I say to make her a bit happier?

I'm the same age as your friend (or was when I first split with dd's dad and dd was a similar age) and I've had no problems meeting men. Granted, not always the right men, but still men nonetheless. Does she actually get out once in a while to places where she might meet blokes? Or what about meeting them through friends? Most of the guys I've met have been via friends or one a night out or at/through work.

She needs mumsnet so she could organise herself a night out with other single mums!

I think I'd give her the same advice I'd give any other woman or man who wants to meet a partner. Do the things you like to do, and you'll meet someone who likes the same kind of stuff as you do. A watched pot never boils and all that, get on with your own life and stuff happens.

Tell her to go out as often as possible, to try new things, and not to give up! 30 is still young. My take on it is that if a man is put off by the fact that I have a child, he is not the man for me.

i'm v open about having kids, and i am older than her, and i still get hit on quite a lot

9/10 i dont take up, but having kids seems to be less of an issue nowadays i think

Agree. Actually when I met my last bf he wasn't put off at all, but I think that was partly cos he had no idea about what parenting was all about.... eg can't she go and play whilst we lie in until midday ...
There followed a steep learning curve

I'm 32 and in a very similar situation to helsi's friend....hope that I will meet someone (if for no other reason than a rabbit can't always be a girl's best friend )

where could she go though? I am more than happy to go drinking etc (nightclubs are not our scene) but where would be the best places to meet someone decent IYKWIM? not sure if she is into speed dating or singles clubs etc as she is quite a shy person.

I am in for ameeting/drinking i need to meet people as i only just joined the club this weekend if you want to cat me please do. Will be visinting this side of the board more.