my babies are having their first sleepover at ex-h :(

[2anddone]

Hi me and h separated in march and he moved into his flat in June. Last night was my dc first sleepover. He came and collected them at 4pm and is bringing them back at 6pm today. Last night was ok a friend took me out for dinner and a drink and I had a lie in this morning, but now I am feeling really lonely and bored and miss my babies. I don't have any jobs need doing around the house or garden, most of my friends have family days today what shall I do :(....sorry I know I am feeling sorry for myself but I didn't expect it to be this hard, this is not what I have chosen for me or my dc. Please kick me up the arse and sort me out

it is really, really hard. I know - I felt the same way. Keep busy and don't worry if you don't really feel like doing anything, you will get used to it and this time will pass. I know it probably feels weird but try going to a matinee cinema showing today - it will kill a few hours and once you get past walking in on your own, the actual movie will probably be enjoyable and pretty good distraction. I've struggled to get used to my own company but now I do enjoy it.

Aw I know how you feel! My husband moved out 2 weeks ago and is just staying with a friend. So the last 2 weekends he's taken out DCs to his parents house for a sleepover on Saturday night. It's horrible! I went out both nights and stayed over at a friend's house so I didn't have to wake up at home alone. Have seen my mum a lot but it's still hard. I guess it'll get easier with time and we will learn to enjoy the time but for now it's so hard :(

It is so hard to begin with. Agree with try and keep busy, something like painting your nails, gutting a room etc that you can't do so easily when they are around. Or do some batch cooking for later on when you are pressed for time?

Lovely that you had company last night. It's good to plan things for when you are on your own so you don't get too flat once they have left.

People watch in Starbucks - take a book or your phone if you feel self conscious.
Agree with cinema you will be surprised the amount of people you see on their own. I don't think twice about going on my own now.
Mooch around the shops, go for a drive for a change of scene. Try to use the time to recharge even just the novelty of being able to have a coffee in peace.
Its not ideal or what any of us would have chosen but I try to see the positives, I get lonely and miss my DD but am lucky to get a break.