I will have a medical operation, what do I do?

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As title says I will have medical operation in hospital, I will have the assessment next week where I will ask the necessary questions as well.
I am expecting to stay at least 1 night in hospital.
We have no one else, me and my dd who is 12.
As it is a medical operation it worries us if something happens to me.
The other thing is who will accompany me, us.
Will she be able to stay with me at night there, do they allow?
Do I need an adult to stay with us? Do I need to ask friends? but I am not very close to them?
What do I do?
Thank you very much in advance.

At my local hospital they do not allow children to stay on the ward, but obviously that could vary by hospital. At 12 does she not have her own friends who you could discuss the situation with their parents, she could stay at their house? I'm sure most people would be willing to help out given the circumstances. Good luck for your op.

I went through a similar thing about 6 weeks ago. Your DC will not be able to stay with you in the hospital so you will need to make another arrangement for her. I had one friend take me to the hospital and one bring me home who I then stayed with till the 24 hours post anaesthetic was up.
I was alone at the hospital which was fine. Quite frankly it was easier being alone.
My friends were great and supportive immediately saying yes when I asked them.

Ask your DDs friends if she can have a sleepover with them.

If there are complications with surgery, then worst case scenario, Social Services could have her in Foster care for a couple of nights....its not uncommon and will allow you to relax while you recover.

but for a routine op, you should be fine relying on a school friend, especially if you ask now.

Thank you so much to you all.

One thing I was advised to do was to write a letter of wishes for my executors should anything go terribly wrong stating what my future plans for DD were and how I would like my money spent on her. I also took the decision to write a letter to DD that she would get in the event of something awful happening. They were the hardest two letters I have ever written, but it did help me to know that if something awful had happen everything was in place. I emailed them to a friend a attachments to not be opened unless something awful happen if everything was fine she was just to trash the e-mail.