Flirting. Do you?

[SnoopyLovesYou]

So... what are your top tips for flirting?

Do you go all shy and giggly and bitchily push all your female friends out of the way to 'get that guy.'

Do you stumble and stutter and have a blank moment anytime any male approaches you?

Do you refuse as a feminist Mumsnetter to flirt at all. Are you all for clarity and matter-of-factness? What would your daughter think of you flirting anyway? Only 16 year olds flirt!

Or... as I suspect... none of the above?

Do tell!

:-D

Personally I can never think of any responses! I'm never able to give the often expected and required joking flirty answer lol. And I can never tell if someone likes me or is just making conversation. Like I was sitting beside someone on public transport the other day with my 2 DC. The guy beside me said 'the bus is busy today!' Cue me thinking- oh! Was that a flirt? And answering (about a minute later) 'Well it's rush hour isn't it?'

You can tell I'm going nowhere fast!

;-D

I will be reading this one with interest as I am useless at flirting, I don't do it because I feel really awkward and self conscious. I think it probably either comes naturally or it doesn't.

Your bus reply is me on a good day!

lol - I wasn't sure how to answer when I remembered this:

I was complimented when on a (very rare) night out a couple of years back. He said I looked Hot. What did I do?

Did I giggle and blush? Nope
Did I flirt? Nope
Did I even look at him? Nope
Did I even recognise the compliment? No.

Instead, dopey here said....

"Are you high? I'm freezing, it's -6 out there."

FFS.

Well Farrow to be honest, I hate being called hot. I don't take it as a compliment. Makes me feel like a dog on heat and is probably designed to make women feel uncomfortable anyway. I think your response to that was perfect. Gorgeous, beautiful good. Hot, sexy lady? Em... no. Imo.

Hot? A cup of tea is hot. This is Britain ffs.

Come on everyone don't be shy!

flirting for me is playful banter. nothing like a laugh and smile to win anyone over.

I don't know how. I hate any kind of compliment if it's not 100% sincere so I am not good at flirting.

I'd be on the same page as snoopy. Being called 'hot' by some randomer? That makes me feel threatened. I'm not a dog but I'm not attempting to look sexually available. My 'look' is obviously classic, healthy, attractive, normal........... if somebody called me 'hot' I would look behind me, and not because I think I'm ugly. That would not be the type of man I'd click with.

My response would be 'I'm not hot. But you're clearly a bit hot under the collar.' Who's the dog now? Haha!

Yeah I have a friend who is great at flirting too. Hence why I started this thread. She made me feel rubbish at it on a recent night out. One guy (not attractive to me) approached me:

Him: Are you a teacher?

Me: No

Him: I love your dress. [Makes reference to the 'graduation-esque' collar on my dress.] It makes you look like you just graduated. Did you graduate today?

Me: No. [Starting to catch on and managing a smile.] Erm I mean yes I did graduate today!

Back to the flirting drawing board for me or was he just an idiot?! ;-)

Well, God loves a trier, I respect a man even a nervous man who doesn't find flirting natural who can walk over to somebody, chat about fresh air and hope it doesn't dive bomb. But the 'you look hot' is just about saying 'any chance of a shag?'. and I would probably roll my eyes before he'd walked away. I do look quite proper and wholesome though! I wouldn't get too many random you're hot comments!!

Yeah guys don't approach me very often (think I maybe look intimidating) but when they do, I always appreciate it. It shows they've got guts. One guy came over to me in a bar, introduced himself and when my friend started telling him that I have children etc and started to flirt with him, he made it clear that it was me he was interested in and not her and he didnt mind if I have kids. Haha! Damn I should have got his phone number but I was still in my so called 'relationship' (please read 'empty soul destroying partnership')at the time so it wouldn't have been proper ;-)

Geez! that was nice of your friend I know exactly what you mean when you describe your relationship with children as a soul-destroying partnership.

I wonder if that guy picked up on the fact that..{schmaltzy Hollywood talk here} your heart was available, even if you weren't available in practical terms.

Yeah I wish he would show up on my doorstep now! (I don't see that friend much anymore! Kind of a running thing with her to put me down!)

Yeh, I tolerated that kind of friendship when I was younger. I wasn't a total doormat, I had a mixture of friends, and some were supportive and encouraging, but for a long time it would have been normal for me to have had a friend who cut me down to size with a sweet dig here or there, always in the company of other people.

My bar is so high now!

Yeah I'm afraid my bar is really high now too! I'll never find anyone good enough! ;-)