Ow in my place

[sandiy]

Its silly,I recognise it's silly but I just need to get it out.I just dropped my children to spend the first week of the holidays with dad other woman and his new baby.They ve got a new seven seater car so she for the first time was at drop off.She was in the passenger seat,It's the first time I've seen her in real life.I made no eye contact To be honest I feel really shocked I was nt expecting it I was nt really prepared.Its not sexual jealousy I'm jealous because another woman well child really is taking on the role of "mother" to my children.On the upside I looked pretty good so not all bad I expect he had told her I was a fat troll I am old enough to be her mother mind.I m really great full that I stuck to my diet and did my roots a couple of days ago.That's all really.

It's a big moment, it sounds like you behaved with dignity which makes it easier for the kids which is all that matters.

Apart from the fact you looked bloody great!!

It will get easier. Hope you've got some nice treats planned while they're away.

I'm jealous because another woman well child really is taking on the role of "mother" to my children

No-one can ever do that unless you give them permission - hold onto the thought that you will always be their Mum, no matter who they spend time with.

And don't assume she'll take on the role of primary carer - if she's any sense she'll leave your DCs dad to parent his DCs and she'll concentrate on her own baby.

Your the only mother they have, remember that. Hope your having a nice day

It's perfectly normal and rational to feel funny about it. Sounds like you handled it really well.

Hope you have a relaxing weekend - are you taking advantage of the childcare to go and do some grown up stuff?

Feeling a bit meh today got my face done at benefit,went to John Lewis for a browse.Could nt find anything I liked to buy so came home empty handed.I miss my children desperately today As I said its silly but there you go I might go out tonight though for cheapy drinks with some friends if I can motivate myself.

I was as cool as a cucumber that xh met someone, I was pleased that he had as I had too, had no concerns about another woman being around, thought it would even help things and I'd been a stepmum for years so had been in her shoes. It was still a funny old feeling when dd went off with them for the first time that I hadn't expected to have!

She won't take on the role of mother. I looked on it that I would happily send dd to a holiday club, or for tea with a friend and it was no different to another woman looking after here there. And if it became more than that, then it would be of benefit to dd. You are irreplaceable to your children.