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just accepted a job offer and now i'm panicking about my DCs

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haveanothercreamcake · 24/07/2013 14:05

I'm over the moon i've got a job, and its only a 25 hour a week job, so i dont need childcare for school days. But what about school holidays? How can i stop feeling like a rubbish mum because I have to put my DCs in childcare instead of being with them like I always wanted to be? My Dcs are 5 and 6.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

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cestlavielife · 24/07/2013 14:13

they will be fine; they old enough to go in holiday clubs/camps look on local council website under holiday playschemes.

think of benefits - money, your self esteem, your confidence - all will make you better parent not worse.

you will still bewith them evenings weekends holidays ... you not giving them up for adoption .

(all this talk about kate not "letting a nanny bring up her child" that is nonsense - she WILL need childcare for all those royal engaggements and hairdresser appointments - of course she is goign to sue childcare coz granma isnt going to be availabel all the time.... - giving your children over to someon else for a few hours childcare is NOT giving them to someone else to rear. you will still be totally in charge of their upbringing. and they will have a blast at holiday playschemes....

betterthanever · 24/07/2013 14:48

well said cest I echo every word OP - that is how it has been for me with one DS who is 8 now and loves the holiday play schemes. Well done on the job - you deserve it. The hours sound great - I have to work more than that but tend to work slightly shorter ones in the schools hols as my employer is flexible which is great.

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haveanothercreamcake · 24/07/2013 14:51

Will they resent me for not being there like I always have before?
Or am i beating myself up for no reason?

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cestlavielife · 24/07/2013 15:19

they bound to say things from time to time like "why do i have to go to holiday club?" but you jsut say "because i need to work so that we can ahve money to do xxx/have a great holiday/xxx/whatever next week; and you will have a great time"

so no dont beat yourself up.

teach them about how you get money to pay for things - you work you get paid you get money you have food to eat and nice stuff ...

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haveanothercreamcake · 24/07/2013 15:38

Thank you both of you, you've really helped make me feel better. I know i'm doing the right thing by working, but i really didnt expect the guilt.

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betterthanever · 24/07/2013 17:48

OP there have been times that I wanted to take time off and DS wants to go to the holiday club esp. during the one week holidays - there are so many clubs to choose from, maybe make it part of fun picking which one together. I actually think my DS would be bored if he was with me all the time and I like to think I am a fun and active mum they like spending time with friends especially when they get a bit older. Your sound the perfect age to start attending - when you see those smiley faces when you pick them up you will know everything is going just great for you all.

Lonecatwithkitten · 24/07/2013 20:23

99.9% of the time my DD loves holiday clubs I do work really hard to get a mix of things. This summer she is 9 has 13 days multi activity, 7 days with professional netball coaches, 4 days dance camp and 5 days survival camp with overnight camp out and cooking over open fire. I had a week at the start of the holidays and then 3 days at the end with her too. Any more than that she's bored with me.
Yes probably doing the same camp day in day out for 6 weeks she would be fed up, but some intensive Internet searching in Feb and I had a good variety for her,

kinkyfuckery · 24/07/2013 20:27

My parents both worked full time when we were growing up. I remember being shifted between family/friends and a few different childminders and holiday clubs.

I don't resent my parents for any of it! I met new friends and got to go play whilst my parents worked hard in order to make the weekends fun.

Congratulations on getting your job, I hope it is great for you

Chubfuddler · 24/07/2013 20:29

I'm on my own with children of 6 and 2 and have always worked, even before ex and I split. You will be absolutely fine and so will they.

swingofthings · 25/07/2013 16:04

My boy doesn't need to go to holiday club, but I have booked him a few days because he enjoys going and otherwise would be bored. He has always gone and enjoyed it. He doesn't like going 8-6 5 days a week, but half sessions and/or 2-3 days a week, he really enjoys it.

You are only feeling guilty because it means a change of habit and kids can be a bit distabilised by it, but as soon as they realised it is fun, they adjust very quickly.

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