Supervised contact..

[mumof289]

Just a question..

If he gets supervised visits, I understand that they are for a period of time. Can I request that they get extended and chose to disagree? Or is that down to the courts?

if they go well then the next step is unsupervised.
this is logical.
wih time whatever issues led to unsupervised may be overcome...but if not then you need evidence why it should still be supervised

but if is contact centre now then next step could be supervised but outside a contac centre eg maybe a trusted adult mutually agreed like a relative or friend. rather than contact centre staff.

if there are good reasons to keep on having supervised then you can mention these to court when it gets reviewwed.

depends on circumstances.
depends why it's supervised
depends if person can prive thmselves or not.
depends on evidence of risks if not supervised.

if it goes to unsupervised but there are issues then you can go back to court.

if court says ok for unsupervised then yes you run risk that things might go wrong again and that has to happen before it goes back to supervised.

if person has flluctuating issues (my exp has flactuating severe mh issues so after contact centre it went supervised by another adult, then progresed to unsupervised - then he went downhillagain and there were incidents and it went back to supervised on my instigation...) . court order is for supervised "and any other as agred by parties" ie if he is ok i allow unsupervised; with back up of going abck to supervised as per court order... lays it open to things going wrong as it isnt always clear when he going to relapse...it is a risk but as kids get older its easier...

There are mental health issues of an "uncontrollable temper" that came from the core assessment from social services as his father was violent to his mother infront of him. He is so manipulative and pretends to be okay when he isn't. I would like
Supervised contact due to the domestic abuse/violence and threats against my life and members of my family and he has threatened to removed the children in the past and he has never had sole care of the babies. I understand that a lot comes into consideration. However, I just want my wishes
Known that I would like supervised contact till the babies are
Old
Enough to decide for themselves, does t sound possible?

all things are possible..there are different sorts of supervised contact though

first is supervised in contact centre, he would be able to interact and play, staff would be there to hand over children, check he is not drunk/incapable, would prevent abduction but would not monitor what he says/does during contact. These are relatively easy to access. your lawyer could refer

second is supervised with family member/friend

third is direct supervision of him with the children by a qualified person who would report on his interaction. Can be arranged privately sometimes otherwise usually court/SS need to refer.

with a private arrangement supervision can be indefinite, with a court order you can't control what they order...just present the best case you can