sports day

[keelyboo]

im so torn, ex walked away from ds couple months ago, hes 2, and hes adjusting well doesnt ask for him anymore and when the girls go see him he doesnt cry and break his heart like he used to

(ds is not ex's but he brought him up until a couple of months ago so its been very difficult all round

sports day tomorrow and all the friends who would watch ds are at sports day with me lol so he has to come, so far ive not told ex about sports day because while ds is coping well i fear seeing "daddy" will set him right back

he doesnt work so could potentially go tomorrow, girls havent asked if hes coming and i feel so selfish but im not sure me or ds could cope with the heartbreak him seeing ex could and probably will cause not to mention for it to happen infront of the entire school and a load of parents

or should i suck it up and just tell him its on and try and hide ds from him?

Hi keelyboo,you have no need to feel selfish ,he was the one that walked out so he is the one that should b feeling selfish.You do what is best for u and your children ,if the girls havent asked if he is going then you dont have to mention it to them,have a great time xx

thank you, i didnt mention it and was very glad! they changed everything and instead of sitting in a long row (so could have kept away from him) they were in very small groups (so 4-6 parents at each event so no hiding from him possible) and moved around following the children from event to event it would have been a nightmare

girls were fine him not being there they didnt ask and think they were just pleased i was there

Thats good glad to know it went well x