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do all exes lie through their teeth?

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lizzie479 · 28/06/2013 10:16

It makes me question how much I was lied to in the relationship. Its like now we have split up Im fair game to be treated worse then dirt! No remorse, no I'm sorry, just more lies to cover his own ass, more requests for stuff from the house (when there is so little here which is laughable after the length of time we were together). When does it end? Sadly I just feel like giving up on men for good now

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keelyboo · 28/06/2013 10:29

mine lies all the time, even to the point to get out of seeing his kids
told me the bridge he needs to cross to collect kids next week will be closed so he cant have them. i rang the bridge and they are open as normal! pathetic isnt it!

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lizzie479 · 28/06/2013 10:39

Does it make you question your whole relationship with them? It makes me angry how they can be so easily called on their lies. That's awful for you keely and bloody insulting!

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MummytoLewis2010 · 28/06/2013 10:52

Im 7 months on from breaking up with mine. He was with someone else as soon as we broke up, lied about that for about 3 months though. Like no one was going to tell me. Lol last week they fell out so he ditched our son so he could sort things out with her. Said he was going to be late back from work, as there was an accident on the motorway so couldnt have him. Later to find out he was with his gf. Lol Its the fact he thinks im so stupid and il never find out. Getting to the point I dont believe a word he says anymore. Puts me off men for a life time

mumandboys123 · 28/06/2013 11:41

yes hun, it's in their job description.

Believe NOTHING at all that comes out of his mouth. Assume whatever he says is the total opposite and you won't go far wrong. It is far less stressful to once in a while be pleasantly surprised than it is to be believe the lies and be let down again and again and again....

I personally believe that once I stopped loving him, it was far easier to see the crap that comes out of his mouth for what it truly is: crap. Total and utter crap. I often smile to myself when he's standing on the doorstep telling me a story about how wonderful life is and I know that it's just the opposite. I never, ever say a word about anything. Works for me!

keelyboo · 28/06/2013 11:58

i regularly look at him and question our entire 8 year relationship!

happybubblebrain · 28/06/2013 12:05

My ex doesn't even know what the truth is anymore. He wouldn't know it if it landed on his head.

I've been put off men for life, but I'm very happyily single now so all's well that ends well.

ImNotBloody14 · 28/06/2013 12:16

No- not all exes lie through their teeth. I am an ex and i dont. You are and ex. Do you?

What you'll find though is that habitual liars tend to lie constantly to save their asses and they'll have been doing it most of their lives, not just since they became an ex.

Theyre liars, whether they're your partner, ex partner, soon to be partner, whatever. Liars lie.

Use what youve learned about his behaviour to make sure you dont choose another like him next time

starlight1234 · 28/06/2013 18:29

My Ex lied all the time we were together..I told him didn't trust a word he said by the time we split up..Even told me once when he had given up smoking and I saw him with a cigarette he was holding it for a friend..I did ask him if he was 14...lol

betterthanever · 28/06/2013 20:48

*My ex doesn't even know what the truth is anymore. He wouldn't know it if it landed on his head.

I've been put off men for life, but I'm very happyily single now so all's well that ends well.* ditto

I was really stressed this week as my ex was due to put his statement in to court for a case I am currently involved in .... when it arrived, the lies were so far fetched that I was actually laughing after getting over initial shock if a judge believes it, it really will be time for me retrain in politics and change the system.

Once a liar always a liar.

betterthanever · 28/06/2013 20:50

imnotbloody14 hadn't seen your post - very well put Smile there are some wonderfully intelligent people on here. not me

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lizzie479 · 28/06/2013 21:43

imnotbloody14 you are right on the money. He used to think it was okay to lie to people to be nice or get out of things. And his parents thought that way too. They would also make excuses to avoid taking responsibility which is very similar to lying. I suppose when I was with him I could not see it so much. Hope you are all having a good night x

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iwantanafternoonnap · 28/06/2013 21:50

Yep mine told loads of lies and even more when he left me for OW now his wife and we have only been split up a year and a half!!

He's 6'2, broad squaddie and I am just about 5' and he goes round telling everybody he had to leave me because I was violent and abusive. I cant recall ever hitting anyone in my life LOL.

Oh and mine tells everyone I stop him from seeing DS, I don't, he doesn't want to see DS. Its just a shame I can't email everyone he knows and forward on the email in which he tells me he is no longer having any contact with DS.

OW is welcome to him.

ImNotBloody14 · 28/06/2013 22:46

Lizzie i do believe your ex is my ex! Grin

Honestly do believe lying that is a learned behaviour- i remember when i was with my ex i used to see his dad lying to people- all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons- he didnt seem to care who knew he was lying as long as it wasnt the person he was lying to. He did it to his wife, his children, his mother and siblings, friends- anyone. I got to learn his behaviours and recognise very easily when he was lying. Tbh it got to the point where i couldnt be around him as i knew so many of the lies and i felt I was keeping things from people. I also recognised all of the behaviours in my ex which led to our separation. He still does it now and even when caught out tries to brazen it out an thinks im buying it. Its actually hilarious at times because i know hes not my problem anymore so i can laugh but i do feel very sorry for his fiancee. I can only imagine how insecure she feels. He has gas lighting down to a fine art.

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lizzie479 · 28/06/2013 23:03

Yes the old 'she is trying to take the kids away from me' chesnut ! No, you are welcome to see them! I need a break sometimes and they need you! I blame fathers for justice ;) i'm not bloody 14 sounds like you are well out of it! I wantanafternoonnap, it is awful to have him move on so fast...jeez, and the lies about you being abusive???? its guilt talking...justifying his actions :( Take care all xxxx

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