Changing name after divorce

[LaSingeEstSurLaBranche]

DC are 3 and 5. Thinking about changing my name after my divorce is through. I know dd doesn't want us to have different names.
Friends are all supportive, but my DM kept her married name after her divorce and my dgm thinks I should keep my married name for the dc. Don't know what to do. I don't want to keep it, but don't want to upset dd.

I chose to keep my married name after divorce (11 years ago now) in order to have the same name as my 3 sons - but I changed from Mrs to Miss.

I've kept mine. I like having the same name as my children. It doesn't really bother me, strangely. (Strange, because it was such a relief to be out of the marriage). I may change it back some day, though knowing me I won't get round to it. The only think that bothers me is when people ask if I'm Mrs or Miss.... I always end up hesitating and saying Ms!

Exactly the same quandary here, my dc are 5 and 3 as well and I have mentioned changing our names to be the se as nana and grandpa but they don't want to. I resent using his name as he has nothing to do with the children now, no contact for over a year. I'd like to have the same name as them, I just hate to see his name where mine should be. Am I right in thinking that I can't change their names without his permission.?

Yes, you'd need his consent unfortunately.

I kept my name as I wanted same name as Son...

I kept my name as I wanted same name as Son...

I will be going back to my maiden name once the divorce is complete, but I'll be using my married name as my middle name, fortunately I can do this with married surname. Seems to be the compromise for dd And I

I kept mine, as one reason we got married was so we all had the same name. I'm still Mrs [exes surname]

I went back to my name after my divorce. It was massively important to my identity and I felt like me again. It has made no difference in my live/my children's lives that I have a different name. How could it? In what situation is it important to have the same name? My children completely accept it too.

If people automatically assume my name is the same as my children's e.g. at the hospital then I don't make a big deal out of it.

I wanted the same name as my own family (mum, dad, siblings, etc.)not my in-laws.

Changed my name back, made no difference to DCs, they take everything in their stride they are such stars! But it is huge for me. It is all part of my recovery and getting me back, hugely important step for me!

I changed my name on separation, you don't need to wait for the divorce if you do it by deed poll.

I've gone back to my maiden name while still married.
My dc don't know or care. Tbh i think a 3 & 5yo shouldn't have any say whatsoever, it's up to you what name you want.

I am planning to keep my married name, but more because I have no attachment to my maiden name than because it's my children's name. I think I may feel differently if XH and I were not friends though.

I am leaning towards changing it to be honest. We usually are fairly amicable, but I don't want to have his name for the rest of my life, even though it's the dc's name too.