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Fathers day moan

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ImakeBADdecisions · 16/06/2013 12:03

I know it is the stupidest thing to get upset over what other people post on Facebook but...

I logged on to answer a question on a local site and my feed is full of "I was clever enough to pick a good dad for my children." I know these posts are about their lives not mine but I feel so sad for ds that I picked an abusive prick.

He does see him btw. I know Fathers/Mothers Day is a lot harder for those with totally absent parents - just feeling sorry for myself.

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BetterDaze · 16/06/2013 12:09

Hi I understand. I picked 2 total idiots for mine, I could change my username to yours. I'm finding facebook a bit nauseating today also, just try to ignore and not take it personally, it's the best way.

SummersHere · 16/06/2013 12:10

I think you need a 'friends' cull. Do people really write crap like that? I only have real friends on fb and never see anything remotely offensive on my news feed, if I did I'd simply delete.
You have my sympathies though, ds's dad is an absent one but he's not old enough to be affected by it yet.

Beamur · 16/06/2013 12:13

I boycott Fathers Day for personal reasons - but maybe it's a reflection of my age and friends, in that a third of my friends on fb are doing the 'fab Dad' thing, another third missing deceased ones and the rest wishing their Dad friends a good day as their own childrens Dads are not in their lives.
Grin and bear it!

DotCottonsHairnet · 16/06/2013 12:30

Hadn't realised how much of this sort of FB posting went on until this year - Mothers Day was ignored by my ex - luckily my wonderful teens rose to the occasion and it was fab. Valentines was grim too and now this - just horrid. Hopefully when we've done a full cycle of this sort of thing it will get easier?????

sandiy · 16/06/2013 21:38

Don t worry if you have to boast about it who are you trying to convince.yourself or other people.When I was entirely miserable I carried right on faking it.Im not saying they all are but what do these people have to prove.

NicknameIncomplete · 16/06/2013 22:29

Luckily my fb isnt full of idiots like that. My dd didnt mention her dad once today or this week. He walked out of her life for the last time just over a year ago & shes so much happier.

Our childrens dads may be pricks but at least their mums arent

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ImakeBADdecisions · 16/06/2013 22:32

And now all the dipshit comments about Nigella. What a day.

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Raaraathenoisybaby · 16/06/2013 23:06

This is why I quit Facebook
This morning we built a Lego castle and this afternoon we went swimming just the dds and I. Forgot it was Father's Day! We did some craft stuff for exh last week and put it away to give him and that's the most it's impinged on me this year. If I activate my account I will see all the bollocks showboating. Fuck that!

SnoopyLovesYou · 17/06/2013 09:16

Yes it's nauseating on FB!

I too gave cards etc from DC on Friday for contact.

Then, unbeknown to my children, I made Father's Day about ME! Because I also saw someone posting on FB about 'single mums pulling double duty' and therefore being 'fathers.'

So I took my DC out for a lovely treat lunch in the countryside :-D

Happy Father's Day me!

Emz8369 · 17/06/2013 09:52

my ex doesnt see our daughters (his choice) but I sent him a message off them saying happy fathers day and he didnt even acknowledge it (didnt even reply with a thanks)

RogueRebel · 17/06/2013 11:20

my ex sees our 2 DD's every other weekend after 2 years of no interest. and him constantly saying I stole his children and how much he loves them.blah blah blah.
after spending 2weeks of both daughters reminding me about fathers day, constant drawings and hand made cards. shop bought cards and gifts.
He didn't mention it to me and if he could see them on the day (not his weekend)
when we tried to phone him fathers day morning he had his phone turned off. we sent messages and txts but couldn't get hold of him.
we did however manage to get hold of my grandad. (no dad for me either) and my brother who have both doted on my DD's since the days they were born. (ex actually complained about this).
Ex has two other older boys 16 & 14 I think he's only making an effort for their benefit that he sees DD's as he used the same excuses for not seeing them when they were younger. A reason why I insist that he see's both girls. its clearly wearing thin DD's are both under 5 so is increasingly harder to keep all his children happy at once.
Op your not the only one who made a mistake but we wouldn't have the same children if we didn't. ( I am constantly reassuring myself with this statement)
my only FB comment was this "Happy Fathers day to all the parents who are playing both roles because some asshole decided being a parent wasn't their main priority"

SnoopyLovesYou · 17/06/2013 19:49

Rogue rebel I wish I was enough of a rogue rebel to have that as my Father's Day message!

queenofthepirates · 17/06/2013 22:04

I think you should and can feel as sorry for yourself as you like but bear in mind there'll be plenty of childless would be mums and dads who would kill to be you guys. I know it's hard (I'm there too) but if we have healthy, happy kids, feck the feckers who who chosen well. Have two mothers days in one year!

BlackeyedSusan · 18/06/2013 13:42

well, I thought I had picked a good-un. well educated, good with money (ish) kind. unfortunately he also lashes out. can happen to anyone you don't necessarily know what you are getting until you sign up for the deal.

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