TR is scared and wobbly.

[TrinityRhino]

I'm a lone parent.
I'm my girls only living parent.
I know that lots of people are in the same position but I feel crushed with fear by the sheer weight of the responsibilty.
was hoping I could come and hang out over here with you all.
sorry about any typing mistakes. still only got my p hone to post with

hi

Not many people are in your position Trinity. You are doing amazingly well, and it's clear from your photos how lovely your girls are.

thanks kelda

Hi, I am a LP but my DS is fortunate enough to have his dad still around too.
How is half term going?

Hi Trinity, I saw your other thread - am really sorry for your loss .

Being a lone parent is hard going and I think you sum it up well - it is the fear of 'what if' that is the hardest at first - and I have an ex lurking in the background who disappeared for a couple of years and has now got his head out of his arse moved back round the corner.

But I think it gets easier and I certainly have got used to doing my own thing with my boys in tow - although they are now both taller than me.

Sending you

thanks everyone
we're in Scotland so no half term here.

Gosh, I am so sorry, I haven't seen your thread. Has your DH / their dad recently passed away?
There are some lovely ladies over here who are very good at hand holding and re-assuring through wobbly times.

yes my girls dad, my dh passed away in 2009

and my dp died on the 10th of may

Oh my goodness how terribly sad. I am so so sorry for your losses. No wonder you feel wobbly and scared. You are having to manage your grief and hold things together for your children for the second time.
Do you have lots of RL support to help you?
Just try to take it one day at a time.

hunni i understand how frickin awful it is, my 3 kids dad died suddenly of SADS at christmas 2008. it was the worst time of my life, one i could never fully get over, and i was in the middle of my pregnancy with dd at the time.

its a huge responsibility and took me a few years to get the strength i have now... i would defo recommend cruse support and even way foundation if appropriate. either way, reach out and grab whatever help/ support/comfort you can, and feel free to vent on here xx

Hi trinity,

I thought I had already posted a message on here but it's not here

I'm so sorry to hear of everything you've been through.
You are doing fantastically well coping with all this shit, it must be so hard trying to brave face it for the kids.

Lps will be here for you whenever you need us.

Scotland you say, me too. You know there's a thread planning a meet in chat.
There will be Pom bears and fruit shoots, gregge sausage rolls as naice ham. Oh and a stand up comedy about pelvic floors at the edinburgh one.
They are still negotiating dates for glasgow and Aberdeen.

TR, am in Scotland too (though probably nowhere near you). Hope today has gone as well as it could - have been thinking about you.

Just a thought - I lost my father when I was 6 so know what you're children are going through. If they ever want to talk to someone I'm more than willing to listen. I'm not a trained counsellor or anything, but I have the t-shirt.

Anyway, you take care. You're doing brilliantly.

RanH
(Haven't posted on your threads up to now but have been following and thinking of you)