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I've been overdue a rant on here for a while so here it is...

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bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 27/05/2013 23:55

Angry

Fucking ex. He doesn't get to me at all these days but I'm Shock and Angry and the fucking cheek of him tonight.

Some months ago, for reasons known only to DD's fuckwit dad, he decided to tell her he would be taking her on holiday next year. Why he felt the need to tell her this I've no idea. He went into some detail with her, describing how he'd been to gran canaria when he was a boy, the things he did etc. and DD has repeated this to me a few times, telling me her dad is taking her on holiday next year etc. and how she wants to do what her dad did when he was a boy etc. He took her on holiday to Turkey 2 years ago free kids place and she loved it. So, him telling her about another holiday has got her little mind ticking over thinking about it even though it's over a year away.

So, he texted me a few days ago to say he was thinking of taking her to Egypt instead. I queried this as DD has been talking about gran canaria etc. and said he'd need to talk to her about it. Then tonight, he's texted to say he's now going to egypt alone, as he's visiting friends and they are 'party people' so DD not welcome. I politely point out that he's told DD he's taking her on holiday so he's built her hopes up only to change his mind when he gets a better offer so in future could he simply not tell her about possible holidays if he has no intention of taking her leaving her disappointed. Queue a rant from him about how he deserves this holiday as 2 fucking years ago he had DD 24/7 for 1 week. This is the point were I lost the plot Blush. 1 week out of 52 2 fucking years ago is the sum total of his effort in spending time with DD. He sees her infrequently, can't even remember when she last saw him tbh. She loves spending time with him but he simply can't be arsed most of the time. And most of the time I just leave him to it as he's not worth my energy.

But, telling me how he deserves a holiday without his DD because he had her 24/7 2 fucking years ago ignoring the fact he put her into the kids club every day and expects sympathy from me? Me who has responsibility for DD 24/7 every fucking day? Oh, apart from 1 week 2 fucking years ago. Angry Angry

I honestly don't know where he gets the gall to come out with this shite. I couldn't give a tiny shiny shit about what he does, where he goes and why he thinks he needs a holiday. I simply don't want him fillling DD's head with shite when he has no intention of actually taking her anywhere. It's not fair on her to be led to believe she's going on another holiday with her dad, which she would just love, for him to then decide he's going on holiday only not with her. It's fucking cruel, especially as she has been told this ages ago, and talks about it frequently.

So, my usual zen-like couldn't-give-a-fuck veneer cracked slightly, and I wasn't as polite as I usually am when dealing with him. Useless twat. Normal service will resume shortly but by fuck I let him know exactly what I thought of his fucking oh-so-deserved holiday. And I don't regret it either. Smile

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honey86 · 28/05/2013 10:34

im so sorry its not a funny situation but i lol'd at your rant particularly the 2 fucking years ago bits.

men go on like they deserve the nobel prize for such irrelevant things. my nephews dad is the same, like he wants a medal for having contact, acting like dad of the year when its my sister that does all the hard work. Hmm

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots · 28/05/2013 14:06

I know! It was the 'he deserves it' crap because 2 fucking years ago he had her for a whole week. Completely side-stepping the fact I am solely responsible for DD 24/7 all year! Apart from the odd over night once in a blue moon. By his logic, I should get a gap year travelling the world extended by about 50 years, seeing as I have DD 24/7 51 weeks a year, 52 if you don't even count the oh-so-draining holiday in Turkey 2 fucking years ago. Grin

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Lioninthesun · 30/05/2013 23:29

Just read this and it made me chuckle.
Hope you are feeling better OP :)
What a twat.

MagicHouse · 30/05/2013 23:45

I laughed too Grin - sounds like he deserved the rant!

HarrietSchulenberg · 30/05/2013 23:48

Ha ha your ex sounds like he's from the same planet as mine. Rant away, hope it helps.

piratecat · 31/05/2013 00:11

oh op i hear ya.

when dd was about 6 and was upset yet again because he had let her down. and i was calling him on it he said.
(to me trying to explain his fatherly responsibility to her)
'so is this what i have to put up with till she is 18'

oh yes isn't is just terrible for you having to think about your much wanted child and her needs. even though you don't even see her and when you do you don't enjoy it.

oh yes when she gets to 18 that 1% effort you put in can stop. it must be so tiring for you.

its a mare.

trapenfold · 31/05/2013 17:48

what an prick head! doesn't have a long lost twin brother does he?

BlackeyedSusan · 05/06/2013 13:12

oh joy. so he has had her for one week 2 fucking years ago in 104.... poor thing, he must be so exhausted.

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