I want to move about 3 hours away

[absolutelyflawed]

Exh will go mad as myself and dc currently live down the road - I know that he can't stop me and also I am thinking of volunteering to help with the journey every other weekend but not sure if I will regret suggesting that when going to need some down- time?

How old are your DC's absolutelyflawed?

you should, without doubt, help with travelling by at least meeting half way every other weekend if that is the agreed contact pattern. It is not your ex's fault that you have decided to move and it certainly isn't your children's fault. The right thing to do is to share the travelling.

Your ex is now set to lose a considerable period of time with his children at the weekends - if you expect him to do all the travel he will have 12 hours of travel over a couple of days. If you help him, that will reduce by half. That's time with dad that your children will benefit from.

I am sorry to be harsh but you have a responsibility to make sure your children's relationship with their dad isn't compromised in anyway and when you move such a distance (I did the same myself) you are making things very difficult.

Thanks for your replies. My DC are 5 and 7. I guess I thought that if I do half the travelling during the little time that I have to myself then I will have even less time.. But as you say it is my decision ( even tho I think where I'm moving to will be more beneficial for the children). Normally on a sun pm ex and dc will just be sitting in front of the tv so they may actually get more talking time in the car.

I would offer to help if possible. But make sure it is something you can stick to as once you have done it once, if taken to court they will see no reason why you can't continue to. For this reason, definitely don't offer to do all the travel for any times.

One thing to bear in mind-If you say he tends to just sit in front of the TV with DC, will he actually continue to visit them or will he decide it's too much hassle?

I agree completely with mumofboys.