When I found out I was pregnant my DD's father made it clear that he wanted me to have an abortion, when I declined he took to social media site to express how much he didn't want this and how the decision had been taken out of his hands and it wasn't fair. I did give him the decision as to whether he wanted to be a part of our babies life. He said that he did however he made things as difficult as possible when I was pregnant.
Once our DD was born he arranged to see her once in july 2011 and saw her twice over the next month at meetings arranged by his mother. in November 2011 he asked to see her however we were moving home and it wasn't convenient so I suggested the following week, he couldn't make it so I suggested the week after but never heard back from him. Then on new years eve I received some abusive messages telling me I was making it impossible to see his daughter.
I didn't see or hear from him again until August 2012 when I bumped into him in the street. He came to the park with us and watched as I played with our DD. we apologised for the way he'd been in the past and said he was going to change. A few days later he text asking which days were best to see DD ands I told him there was no specific day but to give me a few days notice. That was 7 months ago and I haven't heard from him since.
His parents visited monthly up until July 2011 but they haven't been in touch either.
I've always made it clear that he and his family are welcome to visit DD however I won't arrange it for them. DD's father has always been irresponsible and keeping in touch and arranging contact was suppose to be his way of proving that he wanted to be a part of DD's life. I don't want her to be the child sat crying waiting for her father wondering why he hasn't turned up.