is this acceptable?

[mistressmiggins]

children just come back from weekend with daddy - I know they have a long car journey (over 3 hrs) but this is not the first time DD has come home soaking wet - her nappy was absolutely full and her tights & skirt were soaked.

last time daddy had them for just a day, he didnt change her from 10.30am pickup to 4pm drop off - I know cos he used nothing from the changing bag.

this just isnt acceptable is it?

no fruit all weekend

DS cleaned his teeth with water all weekend cos daddy couldnt find DS's toothpaste in the bag I sent & obviously couldnt afford to buy children's toothpaste so made DS use his - he didnt like the taste

oh and ex-soon-husband failed to mention that he lives with his GF in his new house - Ive been asking him to talk to kids about this for last couple of months - hes too chicken to actually say the words but will no doubt give me verbal abuse when I next email him

rant over

I totally agree with you MM.

They should have toothbrushes, clothes, wellies etc. all there. They shouldn't really have to take a whole load of clothes with them. My DD has to have all that stuff in her nursery, FGS, let alone at the home of someone who claims to be doing an equal parenting job.

It's about doing the real graft of parenting, without anyone else to pick up the dirty clothes after you. What pisses me off about so many of these men, is that they continue to expect the women they no longer live with, to metaphorically wipe their arses every time they exert themselves to half-parent. The automatic assumption is that it is the resident parent's job to sort out the clothes, toothpaste etc. While at the same time claiming that they're equally responsible for their children.

Oh it's so easy to rant about this one.

This is so hard MM. I have various issues like the ones you have with my ex-H. The only thing I can say is not to get too bogged down in the detail with him. You'll get nowhere & it won't improve the relationship between you.
Come & rant on here, let it all out & vent the frustration. We'll be sympathetic & understanding.
Your ex-H will probably never be as attentive to the details of looking after your children as you would be - you will probably just have to accept that this is how it will be.

Yep agree with Bugsy the other way of looking at it is that he would have been like this if you'd stayed together as well, and then you'd have had to be picking up all the bits after his marvellous parenting every single day instead of just at the contact visit times. Look on this as a bonus!

Always look on the bright side of life...