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Where does my SIL stand regarding abusive partner and housing?

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Theicingontop · 22/12/2012 17:36

I posted this here because I hoped that someone would have experience with this dilemma. Sorry if it's in the wrong section.

My brother's girlfriend is planning to leave him. He's an all-round twat, not a very good father at all, too many things to describe that give him that title. I'd be here all night.

She believes (and I think she's right) that he's cheating on her with his exp, with whom he has a child (who was conceived from cheating on her before, no less. She took him back Hmm).

She's asked him to leave, he won't. So she wants to take her dcs and leave, but doesn't know where to begin. She's putting it all off until after Christmas. They're privately renting, he controls the money and she has none to move with.
She doesn't want to involve the police, she doesn't want to subject the dcs to that. Are there any routes she can go down to get herself out?

Will the council house her temporarily for something like this? If not, what can she do?

My family aren't in a position to help, my parents have a very small house and no room. Her family live abroad. Any advice?

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Witchety · 22/12/2012 18:07

Women's aid? Our council will refer women to local hostels as well. My friend was in one which was excellent.

Then she phones tax credits and child benefit and explains
She makes a new claim

kinkyfuckery · 22/12/2012 18:08

Yep, women's aid is a good place to start. They can advise her on housing or hostels. And tax credits to start sorting out the finances. Does she have her own bank account for this to be paid into?

Is she on the lease on their current home? Is there any way he would leave?

Witchety · 22/12/2012 18:08

Also,this annoys me. The police are there to help and assist. Why the fear of 'subjecting' them on the kids?

They can be full of information and advice

WankinginaWinterWonderland · 22/12/2012 18:10

Our Council does the same but you do get a house reasonable quickly, does she have anyone to back her story regarding abuse? The Council do usually ask for this, which is why I would also recommend Womens Aid. Our local Womens Aid have refuges like little self contained flats.

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