Ex is driving me mad...not sure if I want advice or just a rant...
Left dh in Oct due to dv. Took dd and ds to stay at a friend's house, getting back into the house a month later when he went on holiday. On his return, he agreed to leave after receiving a very cleverly worded solicitors letter.
So, for two and a half months, he doesn't ask how the kids are, let alone ask to see them. No contact at all. I've now received a letter from his solicitor saying he wants the kids at weekends and also to have them on Christmas Eve, alongside an appointment to attend mediation to discuss why I have refuses any requests for contact so far.
All very well and good, maybe, however, since we left, dd has told me how scared she is of daddy, how he neglected them when I wasn't there, ignored them, fed them dry bread, screamed at them and recalls so much of the dv that's horrific. D's has nightmares, is scared of the dark, hides under the bed cos daddy scares him and talks of being made to sit in the dark when I wasn't there.
Also, since I left, friends and family have told me so many concerning things about what they saw and heard too.
I just can't bear the thought of being taken to court to explain all this, then being forced to make them go and see ex-h when they are so scared of him. Also, why should he have weekends without doing any of the hard work in the week, school runs, washing, cleaning, without being up every night with them screaming, then having to fix them when they come home, for it all to start again the following weekend?
It also states in the letter that he will not disclose the address they will be staying at. All I know is that he is sleeping on a sofa at a mates - can he really have two young children for the weekend in these conditions?