FFS. (another rant alert!)

[doyourworst]

STBXH and I are waiting for our divorce. Arrangements for the children (2 and 4 yo) are split 50/50. It's DDs last day at school this Friday and there's a family assembly at 2pm. The kids get to go home afterwards. Our kids are officially on STBXH's time on that day until 5.30pm but he will be at work (I collect them from the childminders). I have the day off and will go to the assembly. I would like to take DD home with me and collect DS from childminders at 5.30 as planned. STBXH won't allow it. So I will go to the assembly and watch her be taken off to the childminders by her paternal grandfather.

Tomorrow morning, they are officially on his time until 9am. He has to go to work before that. I don't work Mondays and Tuesdays so could collect at any time. He chooses instead to put DS with the childminders for an hour until 9am and put DD into breakfast club at school. We live under 2 miles from each other.

Rant over.

Opinions on a postcard please.

You want to get right of first refusal agreed. Basically if either of you aren't able to look after dc you offer the other parent to take them, before you ask anyone else. That is in the child's best interest as time with both parents is important and should be prioritised.

50/50 care isn't about keeping a weekly scorechart to make sure you both got exactly the same number of minutes with them. It s about acknowledging that both parents are important and should share the responsibility of parenting equally.

Good luck, he sounds very petty.