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Original poster

Dd is sick and no one to help me take her to the doctors!!

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Movingforward123 · 14/12/2012 17:12

I had my dads car which I've been using as I'm waiting to buy a new one.

Dd has a temperature, it started last night! And this morning my dad came to my house and said he needs his car back!

Now I have no car. So now I have to get a cab with dd to the out of hours doctors as I asked my mum to take me but she won't.

God I feel so fucking alone sometimes!!! Sorry just wanted to moan as I feel like crying!

Also once I get my car I won't be bothering with my useless family anymore! They are just rubbish!

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Witchety · 14/12/2012 17:15

Is it necessary to go to the doctors with just a temperature?

curlypoo · 14/12/2012 17:16

agree with Witchety, not sure what dragging her to Docs will acheve

kinkyfuckery · 14/12/2012 17:18

Have you phoned NHS Direct/24? I'm guessing so if they have told you to take her to the OOH doctor?

maxmillie · 14/12/2012 17:20

why cant you take her on your own in a cab? I have 3 dc and always go on my own as have no family around, my DP is rarely around and I often have to trek to doctors on my own with all of them. Not sure this is a big issue.

Witchety · 14/12/2012 17:20

Is it not coming down with calpol?

BertieBotts · 14/12/2012 17:20

Don't be harsh, not everyone knows what merits a doctor's visit when their first child is young!

Sorry you're feeling alone OP. I agree with the others (in a nicer way ) I'd keep an eye on her at home rather than bothering with a cab etc, unless she's a baby?

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 14/12/2012 17:22

so why do you need someone to help you if you're getting a taxi?

CajaDeLaMemoria · 14/12/2012 17:25

I'd monitor her with calpol unless NHS Direct have told you to go in. There isn't much else that doctors can do if it's a standard temperature.

I'd also calm down before deciding to cut off your parents. It was very nice of your Dad to lend you his car, and if he needs it, there is no real way around that. It was unfortunate your mum can't help you take your DD but if she's already busy, perhaps she can't get out of it?

If they are generally supportive (and they sound it, if they've given you their car) I wouldn't cut them off.

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Movingforward123 · 14/12/2012 17:27

I called my gp and they told me to take her to the out of hours doctors as its not coming down with calpole!

And I don't need anyone to help me if I'm getting a cab! I'm just annoyed that I can't ask anyone for help! That's all!

But yea maybe some of you do always get a cab alone with 3 dds! I just normally drive and feel that it's not easy being stuck indoors alone with dd when she is sick and with no car!

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BertieBotts · 14/12/2012 17:30

How old is she?

LucieMay · 14/12/2012 17:31

Lone parent here, never had a car! Usually just get the bus to the doctor's!

kinkyfuckery · 14/12/2012 17:33

How ill is she? Is it 'just' a temperature or other symptoms as well? Have they given you a time slot to take her to OOH?
Do you think the doctor has told you to take her to OOH because they are worried about her, or because they think you want her seen regardless?

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 14/12/2012 17:42

this would be a non issue for me and i'm used to driving too. so no-one can help out, fine, just get in a taxi and go. fair enough if you are used to them always being there whenever you want and i get maybe you are worried about DD, stressed etc but hardly worthy of your reaction. sometimes people are just busy and TBH if you can get a taxi and it's just a temp, i dont blame them for not breaking their plans. unless there is a back story here, i dont understand your anger towards them.

BigW · 14/12/2012 17:42

I understand what you are saying. It's not about getting a cab - it's about the times when you realise that you are coping by yourself and that can make you feel sad.

Be strong - your DD will appreciate it when she is older and you can do it on your own. You are perfectly entitled to have down times, but they will pass xxx

Wishing your LO better xxxx

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo · 14/12/2012 17:44

Sorry to be harsh but at times, although its nice to have a family you can rely on, that's life. Your children are your responsibility and whilst it would be nice for your own parents to make your life easier, you cant expect them too. Perhaps it would be good to see if a friend can sit with your other children.

Cachaca · 14/12/2012 17:54

I hope your dd will be OK - my two seem to have been ill non-stop for weeks .

But yes, it's just part of being a parent, I'm afraid. It's great to have help from your own parents, when they can. But those of us who never had any help just have to manage - and so do you, when your parents aren't available. Or even when they just don't want to, because they're doing something else. It sounds like they're already very helpful indeed, so be careful not to cut off your nose to spite your face.

Lonecatwithkitten · 14/12/2012 20:21

I feel this often inside when I am having to deal with a situation that isn't going the way I want. I resent the fact that I am having to do it alone. Yes I get on and do it, but I am screaming about the unfairness on the inside.

SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh · 14/12/2012 21:09

Lots of people don't have cars. Iappreciate that you're stressed and worrying about your DD and I hope she is better soon, but really this isn't worth falling out with your parents over.

iwantanafternoonnap · 14/12/2012 21:13

Try Ibuprofen as well as children respond better to that. The dr's going to do nowt and I wouldn't waste your money.

Ra88 · 14/12/2012 21:13

Stand on your own two feet and stop relying on others

RandallPinkFloyd · 14/12/2012 21:27

Blimey, is there any need to be so harsh?

The OP has already said that she is going to take her on her own.

What's wrong with sounding off, isn't that part of what MN is for?

FWIW OP I completely understand. It's nothing to do with not being able to cope and wanting to rely on others. It's not about the practical help.

It's just about feeling alone.

It doesn't matter how well you cope day to day, it doesn't matter how happy you are being single.

Sometimes it sucks, sometimes something will happen and it just hits you in the face that you really are totally alone. Sometimes it is overwhelming.

I hope you're DD is ok OP, I'm sorry you're feeling so down, it happens to us all every now and then. You won't feel like this tomorrow, or probably even in an hours time.

But there's nothing wrong with needing to sound off about it when it does happen

CluffyDude · 14/12/2012 21:32

It is truly shite being alone when your child is ill.

I get why you are pissed with your family - I would be too.

Hope your dd feels better soon x

CluffyDude · 14/12/2012 21:34

Ra88

Why are you being so nasty?

Do you want to share your reason for feeling superior?

BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 21:37

How did you get on at the doctors 123?

Sometimes we all need a rant and this is meant to be the place to be able to do it! This morning you had a car, then your dad took it back and DD was unwell and well sometime life makes you wan to scream stoooooooooooooop

BigW · 14/12/2012 21:58

Thank you RandallPinkFloyd - that is exactly what I was trying to say, but you put it much more clearly! It is not about the practicalities - it is the moments that make you stop and realise that you can only rely on yourself. It can be scary and upsetting, but it will pass. The OP should be proud of doing it on her own.

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