me and dd's father split up in april this year. dd is complex needs requiring a ventialtor during sleep... when she does slepe that is. she is very restless wakes anything from 2- 6 or 7 times a night, thats without dealing with medical issues that occur during the night.
dd's father has never take a forward approach to caring for dd's medical condition and for the past 2 years i have been her main carer taking her t hospital appointments etc staying with her overnight. we split for many joint reason but one in particular for me is he lack of caring towards dd and her problems. recently she has started turning her nose up at normal food more frequently, we are waiting on a SALT appointment but her doctor said that we were ok to feed her whatever she'll eat, currently thats anything thats blended down to consistancy of stage 2 weaning. she will have the occasional day where she will actually eat 'normal' food but they dont come often.
anyway when i explained to dd father that she eats more food better if its blended... his response 'no its too strange' (dd is 2.3) i felt very insulted, i assumed as a parent he would do what is best for her! i let i slip and carried on. recently we have been having alot of trouble settling dd and keeping her asleep. today dd's father was 30mins late picking her up ( would have been longer if i hadnt phone him TO WAKE HIM UP!). he said he overlaid. maybe it was the lack of sleep ive been having recently but i felt like punching him! i told him i can still get up with a very little amount of sleep (probably 3 hours last night). he gets very spite and did today saying well i told you id have her overnight. but he cant, he doesnt wake up to dd's monitor alarms and to be quite frank wouldnt no how to work machines or what to do in an emergency. it was a joint agreement to begin with that he wouldmt have her overnight!
i actually despise that he has this "i dont give a sh*t" lifestyle! i struggle to contact him when dd's rushed to hospital and he bobs in and out he life once a week (he wont have her any more) and thats it. ignores everuting i tell him about her medically. im at bloody shooting point! i dont no how i can cope. why should i be the only one to take this on! we both created her but it seems its only me being the one who really cares about her wellbeing!!!!!!!