Having a wobble

[Teahouse]

Been fine for a good while about still being single(been 12 years now & 6 without a proper relationship). Been having CBT & some hypnotherapy and was actually totally content with my life (2DCs with 1 at home & the other at Uni).
But literally almost overnight the blues have hit again.

I seem totally unable to see how I get a life. I work stupidly long hours and have no social life to speak of for a whole variety of reasons, but mostly because I really don't know how I get one. How do you get one when you are very middle-aged.

I have been treating myself to some nice clothes and lingerie recently so I am trying to, & generally succeeding, keep my spirits up. I do nice things for me, just for me because I can, but also because I know that if I don't, then no one will (even my parents have only ever bought me practical stuff).

Feel a bit like tearful though, a bit lost & like the world is a little foggy. Luckily I have counselling tomorrow.

Just posting. I know no one can help

Hi there. So sorry you are feeling like this. Good for you for treating yourself well though, such an important lesson, middle aged or n

Hi there. So sorry you are feeling like this. Good for you for treating yourself well though, such an important lesson, middle aged or not! If you can nourish and care for yourself it's half the battle.

What do you think has started off these feelings? Is the dc at home still at school? Are there any PTA or parent social things you could get involved in?

Such an effort to motivate, especially after long working days!

Any interests you could pursue at weekends? Wine? Walking? Films?

Sorry not to be more practical, just didn't want you to think you were alone! Nobody finds it easy to get a life; I sometimes think we all imagine everyone else gliding effortlessly having a great time. It's not always the case.

Hope tomorrow's counselling helps.